Relationships are just not for everybody. And as a woman, that is a difficult thing for some people to understand. Like my mom who asks me on multiple occasions when I plan on giving her grandchildren, and to answer that I just let her know; “not anytime in the next five years.” I have plans for myself, and for what I want out of life that I do not plan on sacrificing to be in a relationship. That is just one of many reasons why I just feel that dating is overrated.
I have other people to support me, so I do not need a significant other.�
One of the main reasons people get into relationships, I think, is that you will constantly have someone there for you. That it is a solid support system. I don’t think that this is the only way to have that. I have plenty of friends and family that are there for me, and I am just fine with keeping it that way.
I don’t think it is worth the compromise.
The biggest thing in a relationship is compromise. You have to be willing to give a little to them, and they need to be willing to give a little to you. I am being selfish right now. This is my time, and I don’t want to sacrifice my wants and needs to be somewhere I didn’t want to be. I want to move where I want, work toward what I want and not worry about making anyone besides myself happy.
Being a millennial, I feel I have been shown to be independent.
Sure, a lot of people do just fine in a relationship and it is their end goals in life. My grandparents have been married since they were 18, but that was also a different age of time. Women have more opportunity now than they did then, and we can support ourselves better. And I want to be able to support myself before I want to be with someone else.
Technology has destroyed dating.
Seriously though, apps like Tinder are just one of the many ways I feel technology has just ruined dating for me. Like yeah, go out have fun, I am all for that, but if you think you’re going to find your soulmate on Tinder then you might want to think again. Just because someone is there at a convenient time that you feeling like having a good night, does not mean we need to plan our Pinterest wedding.
Not worth my time.
As I have stated before, I am all for going out and having a good time, but usually it is going to be on my time and not theirs. I have so much that I am working on for my future, that it doesn’t make sense to me to sacrifice some of my days that I could be working for a date with someone I probably am not going to end up with. Sometimes I need a break yes, but that doesn’t mean I am going to give up everything for you.
I am not saying that not being a relationship is for everyone, but right now, it is not in the cards for me. Maybe it’ll happen when I least expect it, but right now, I am certainly not going around searching for my happy ever after. One day, sure. Today, I have my own things to take care of.
