You’re never guaranteed anything in life. You’ve heard this from your parents growing up, and you’ve felt this after receiving that bad grade on the test you’ve crammed for all week. At any age, dating is the same thing and comes near impossible to predict. Some might even compare to the stock market.
Disclaimer: I do not consider myself the "Warren Buffet" of the dating world, but I would like to believe in a set of guidelines before investing in a new relationship.
You are either the investor or the stock when you initially meet a new girl or guy. Deciphering this from the start is what really can make or break the start of this relationship. I’m an investing kind of girl, if I like something I’m setting my mind to it. Whether it’s eating that last piece of pizza, or buying the perfect dark wash jeans magically on sale, I’m going for it.
At the end of the day, you are mutually investing in each other, but one is riskier, forming a feeling of uncertainty on how much to give in or how much to let your guard down. Essentially, this new person you are pursuing is the stock. Is he a high-risk or even a dumb risk? You hold on to the stock a little longer to find out.
Maybe you’re a venture capitalist, and you see a spark of possibility in stocks people normally wouldn’t choose. You’re the risk taker who’s going to confront that shy but secretly really hot guy in the library and introduce yourself, eventually getting his number. This little penny stock of a potential new guy might turn your love life into a wild wolf, Jordan Belfort style.
Maybe you’re a hedge fund manager and are constantly meeting people due to your strong network, or friend group. It’s your professional connections that aid you in the dating world, helping you find your matches. You meet that cute brunette girl in your finance lab and your similar interests make you compatible. This doesn’t make you a spectator, for you’re still involved and active in the market. Although you’re most likely investing in new stocks constantly, you have the luck of having perfect girls float around within your reach. This is probably that asshole frat guy who surprisingly gets good grades while maintaining perfect hair, even when you see him lifting at the gym.
But after all, of this defining and time spent investing in this new relationship, your stock changes, forcing you indirectly to change investing patterns.
Don’t be discouraged. Sometimes it’s not the stock, nor the investor that leads to the failure of a relationship. These market changes are inevitable. Volatile, even. These changes could include things like moving away, simply realizing you’ve grown apart and other indirect environmental things not intentionally done by yourself or your partner.
You’re not an unlucky investor so don’t lose faith in the most complex and yet still somehow functioning system and look into a new stock.
New and thrilling tech companies get IPO'd every day, so introduce yourself to that fun new girl that just transferred into your BNAD class. Happy Investing.