Recently, I read another article here that truly got me thinking and being confident with my choice on focussing on myself and only myself, at least for now. First off, I am not one to bash relationships, I think they can be great and having a significant other can enhance so many great qualities in a person. But for me, right now, I am choosing to be happy on my own. I am choosing to be happy and love myself. I am choosing to do this so that someday, when I meet that "special someone," I can give them the best and happiest me possible.
Of course, I am doing this for myself for many reasons. I have never been in a better, happier or healthier place than I am right now. Choosing to take time to focus on yourself and better yourself has become the best choice of my life and I have not regretted it once. This choice continues to amaze me everyday. I am a true believer in you have to be happy and love yourself first before you can love someone else. I also truly believe that you should be happy on your own, and that once you meet someone special, they should enhance your happiness, not be the direct and only cause of it.
In doing this, I have learned to be confident and love who I am. I used to be the most self-conscious person. I used to look at myself in the mirror and be unhappy with who I was. I finally had enough of the negativity, I finally had enough of being so down on myself, that I knew I had to make a major change in my life. For the longest time I thought that change would be a new hair color, new clothes or new make up. While those things are great, what is truly special and what really needed the makeover for me, was on this inside.
Making small steps such as smiling when you look in the mirror, taking some time for prayer, surrounding yourself with great people, and laughing more often takes you a long way. I not only became happier with myself, but I found myself being happier around my friends and family. I started noticing a good change in myself and everyone around me started noticing it as well.
Focussing on yourself is something I think that everyone should try at least once in their life. It has been life changing for me and I am continuously happy with my decision. Choosing to do this, I have grown closer to God, my family and my friends and have felt better all around. This is not a choice to be lonely, but it is a choice to be happy on your own while also becoming closer to those that mean the most to you.
