I have a best friend as many people do. We talk a lot about a lot of things. We don't agree one everything obviously because we are different people with completely different experiences. However, we do agree on most general things.
One thing, I will say, that we have always disagreed upon is change.
When I say change, I mean people changing and whether they can and whether that is a positive or negative thing. He's obviously a much more positive person than I am. If you've ever actually met me then you know how much I hate virtually everything
His basic position is that people change and that change is a positive thing. I, on the other hand, hate change. I think people who are terrible usually do not change. And,
Now, I know what you're thinking, "Drew how can you make a generalization like that?" but hear me out, friends.
I feel that changing and growing are two different things. Growing is, in fact, something positive.
It helps you mature in life and also helps to teach you a lot about yourself and stems from the environment in which you grew up change. Changing, on the other hand, is terrible. Change comes when something fundamental about a person has shifted or no longer exists.
For example, growth happens when you stop telling fart jokes because after like 3rd grade they aren't funny anymore. You've matured past that point and that's great!
Change happens when you used to really like to play soccer but now all you do is steal your dad's cigarettes. Yes, that's extreme but you get what I'm saying.
I feel as if throughout elementary and middle school people are growing. They're maturing. They're discovering who they are and who they're not.
But it's high school, where people start to change. Suddenly everyone cares about sports or activities or relationships and nobody has actual fun anymore. High school is where people become fake.
Everyone is concerned with being popular or cool or in that nobody is their actual self.
College is a mixed bag.
Some people definitely grow out of being fake in college. Other people continue on with it.
However, another place where I differ in opinion with my friend is about whether people who used to be rude/fake/evil should get a second chance.
Of course, I said no.
If you're fake, to me you're always going to be fake. I'm not gonna trust you to suddenly be a better person because you're a few years older.
If you're fake you can be fake nice so I'm not gonna believe that you've changed for the better.
My friend, on the other hand, believes in second chances. Personally, I think that's how you let people hurt you, maybe multiple times, but again, it's an opinion.
He keeps telling me that sometimes people change for the better but I've truly yet to see that happen.
I can't think of anyone that I know who I've known for a considerable amount of time that has changed and become a better person.
Of course, things about you will differ from birth to death. But don't change for the worse, grow for the better.
