Here is a real question that many women ask themselves on a daily basis: Either they think that they are not good enough or pretty enough for a man to love them. There are also those girls who know the exact reason that they cannot get a man. Mine is my depression. Which is what we are going to be discussing. How do you find a man who can understand/ put up with depression without scaring him away?

I'm here to tell you it's hard.

I have struggled with depression since I was in eighth grade, but I wasn't diagnosed until this past year because I was afraid what my parents would say or if they would send me away. I was in a relationship for three years, but that ended a few months after I was diagnosed. He couldn't handle it. The same goes for any other man I have either dated or gotten close to dating since then. If there is one thing I know for a fact, it's that God works in mysterious ways; He is probably cooking you up an amazing man. It just takes time.

To the girls struggling:

I am here to say it will be ok. No matter how hard it is to push through the pain, doubt, and fear of telling a significant other about your illness; you will have to do it eventually. There is no way of going around it. You just need to take into consideration that they may have no experience with depression and need to adjust, or they have experience with it and are willing and ready to be there. Whatever the case may be, you have to be ready too. You have to open up to the person, you don't have to tell them your entire life story, but bits and pieces go a long way. They need to understand how you work before they can fully understand/help you. Also remember, you do not need a man to be happy. I thought I did at one point, but all you need is a glass of wine and a best friend (if you are on antidepressants don't actually drink the wine, drink juice that looks like wine out of a wine glass),

To the boys who can't understand:

I get it, it's hard. To have to help a girl to understand how she feels about life all the time and to constantly reassure her that she is enough is hard. I'm just going to ask you to put yourself in her shoes. Think about how much harder it is for her; everyday she has to smile even though she is crying inside. You may think it is hard/scary/annoying when a girl constantly texts you when she is having a break down. That is when she needs you the most. She needs you to comfort her, because odds are in that moment she is contemplating life or death. This thought alone can scare any good man away, but if you had any common sense you would help her through it or try to. Then a few days later, if you don't think you can handle it, tell her. She will understand. Do not just ignore her or break-up with her the day of/after a break down. That is a dick move and you are one of the lowest forms of a man and you are a coward.

I am not trying to throw shade at all men, there are some great men out there who try and push to make it work and help out his girl. We thank men like you who do that, but the odds are in favor of the men who don't. So I will leave you with this, there may be people who will pick you up from your slouch or ones who push you farther down. I am telling women who are struggling, you will find someone. It takes time and patience. There will come a day when a man walks in your life and makes you remember what life was like before depression. That's your keeper. Men, just try. That is all we ask of you. Whether or not you know if you like the person for sure, if you say that you will be there. Be there. Don't run as soon as things get rough.

There will always be someone there for you, be it a best friend, family members, boyfriend, or husband someone is going to be there. You just need to find that someone. And ladies, you probably can't find a boyfriend because you don't need one at this point in your life.