So throughout my 19 years of living, I have been single for a majority of my teenage life. I have only ever had one serious boyfriend that was very much on-and-off for about four years. While being single, I am reminded time and time again by the people around me and social media, that you will never be as happy as people that are in dedicated relationships. I, by no means, am bashing people that are in relationships. I’m sure being in love and extremely connected with someone is great! All I mean is that you don’t need to be in a relationship at all times, to be happy. Everyone has their reasons for being single, and here are a few of mine:
College is extremely time consuming!
Anyone that is currently, or ever was, in college knows that being a full-time college student is extremely time consuming. Also, college students are spending a mass amount of money to go to school and get a degree, therefore most of us want to do well, which takes up a great amount of our time that will be dedicated to homework and studying. Seriously concentrating on anything other than school can be extremely difficult, which is one reason why not only me, but a majority of people are also single at the moment.
I want to be less of a mess before I start dating.
Anyone who knows me knows that I am a mess 100 percent of the time; there are times that I’m less of a mess than others, but regardless, I’m always a mess. One thing I realized when things ended with the most recent guy I was seeing, was that I need to get my life somewhat together so that I’m not depending on someone to make me happy. I want to be happy with myself.
Guys in their 20s are only interested in one thing, and the next guy I’m with will be the one I marry.
When it comes to women, I am very well aware of the fact that a majority of the guys in their 20s are only interested in having sex and aren’t the least bit interested in being in a serious relationship. I’m not, nor have I ever been someone who just sleeps with random guys; I’m a Christian and my family taught me better. A little while ago, I made a decision that the next guy I was going to be with will be the one that I marry. Whether I meet this person tomorrow or a few years from now, I don’t want to waste anymore of my time on something that isn’t going to last.
Being in a relationship isn’t the only thing that can make people happy, and sometimes being single is the best thing that can happen for some people. We all need to be able to be happy on our own when someone special comes into our life.
