Ever since freshman year of high school, I've been in relationships or had a "thing" with a guy. I am currently now a junior in college and this fall, I'm heading back to school single. The last two school years, I was dating a guy on and off. I thought he would be the man I would marry and spend forever with. LOL was I wrong. We broke up in April and since then, I've been single. I know that doesn't seem like a long time, but this has been the longest I've been single. It was hard to adjust to in the beginning, but I've learned that being single in college is actually okay and here is why!
You can focus on you.
When I was dating all of my exes, I put them before myself. And every time that I became single, I focused a lot on me. This past breakup, I've created my YouTube channel and did some drastic things that I wouldn't have done if I was dating my ex. And because of these things, I've became a better version of myself.
You can dance or flirt with whomever you want.
I'm not much of a dancer at parties, but if you're single, you can dance with all the cute guys you want. And if you're a huge flirt like I am, you can flirt and bat your eyelashes at any guy you want because you're single.
Prioritizing becomes easier.
He's one less thing to worry about fitting into your schedule. You can spend more time doing schoolwork, relaxing, working, or hanging out with other people.
You get to choose what you want to watch on Netflix without your significant other not agreeing.
I think almost all my exes and I never had any movies or TV shows that we both liked. Without a boyfriend, I can watch whatever I want to watch and not have to share my pizza.
You have more time to have fun with friends/sorority sisters.
I decided to not attend certain events with my sorority sisters because I wanted to hang out with my ex. I should have gone out with my sisters because boys come and go but sisters are forever. When we broke up, I went out a lot more with my sisters, whether it be parties, going to get food, or just hanging out at our chapter house. I had more fun in my last two weeks of school than I did all year because I spent more time with them.
I will admit, I do miss the cuddling, the forehead kisses, always having someone to talk to, date nights, and having that one person be my biggest fan and supporter. But it's okay to not have that sometimes. Sometimes you just need to do you boo. And college is the best time to do that.
