Why I Am Single
When I was younger, I had hoped I would be married at 24 and start having my own family by 28. Lets all just take a moment and laugh that I ever thought that. I am now 21 and no where near what I had hoped. We have been brought up in a generation that truly sucks at dating. Our generation has made dating so confusing and much more complicated than it should be.
Our generation has become the worst at dating because of many things, lets start out with the obvious, Social Media. Today literally everyone has social media. Whether it be Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or Tinder. We all have one if not every single one of these. Social media allows us all to secretly talk to other people. With all the social media it is making it easier for people to cheat in a relationship. All these apps are giving us more options and making it easier to meet other people online. If you are in a relationship, lets be honest here, you are constantly checking your girlfriends or boyfriends posts, what they favorite on twitter and what they’re liking on Instagram. Social media causes drama that shouldn’t even be there.
Then there is texting. Our generation has become glued to our phones. We talk through texting all day basically everyday. We don't know how to communicate in person anymore. If you have an issue or conflict with someone, the chances of you dealing with it in person is not likely. We will just send a text. It's easier right? Texting also causes problems in a relationship. You can't text someone first or else you seem to needy. But they aren't going to text you first either. You can't text back too fast or you'll look desperate. God forbid double texting. Turn your read receipts on so they know you read their text and didn't reply. Can we all just throw our phones away please.
The “College” Lifestyle today has gotten a little out of hand. When you go off to college you’re suppose to go crazy, party, and not be in a relationship right? It's suppose to be the best years of your life so you can't possibly be in a relationship during that. It's hard to have a relationship while in college. Almost everyone is out drinking and partying. It makes it hard to trust one another.
We are the “Hooking Up” Generation. We are the generation that sleeps around, lets be real. Not everyone, but most people have had multiple partners. Today people are dating just to date. We want that attention from another person, but we don’t want to be with just them. It makes things confusing. Today most relationships begin with sex leaving things complicated. Are we talking, or are we “talking”? Are we dating? Just having sex? Are we friends with benefits? Are they talking to anyone else? So many questions that you can't ask because its “cool” to not care in this generation.
So many people will settle with someone they aren't truly in love with just because they don't want to be alone. But why? Although at times it seems that I will be single forever, I am prepared to wait for the right person rather than hook up with random people just for the attention. Don't get me wrong, not all relationships have these problems. Some relationships are just how they’re suppose to be, and to those people I congratulate you for staying loyal through all of the nonsense our generation has when it comes to dating.
