The idea of soulmates is something I’ve been thinking a lot about recently. I haven’t decided whether or not I believe in it. I think that when I was younger it sounded like a nice idea, but I can see two sides now. I've heard that we meet our soulmates before age 21, and I hope that's true but I'm still unsure if I can base any hope on that.

I think there possibly could be a perfect someone for everyone. Maybe our soul was split in two and there’s someone out there that shares our personality traits so similarly that it’s scary. I believe that this can happen, but I don't believe that it's a necessary belief system. I also think believing in a soulmate is a way of making ourselves feel like we’ll end up with someone. But personally I don’t think there’s anything wrong with ending up by ourselves. Love is wonderful, sure, but so is a successful career and family and friends. There are several people I know who ended up on their own and who are doing just fine.

This other part of me believes that there are several good matches for us. Not necessarily soulmates, but just people we connect with much better than others. This makes sense to me because there are so many people out in the world, how could there be only one person that we get to love that much? There are different types of people that could be right for us. For example, I liked a few different guys in high school and a few in college so far and they have all been different from one another. All great guys, but all different personality traits. Part of what makes the human race so beautiful is that none of us are exactly the same. I may have liked one or two similar character traits like creativity or sense of humor, but each individual is unique and I see a lot of great things about a lot of different people.

If I think about the soulmate situation, then there has been a time where I thought I did have one. I shared a lot in common with this person and I felt the strong urge that they were meant to be in my life. However, that didn’t really pan out. The thing is though is that if they’re my soulmate then I might still end up with them. But I don’t believe in holding out hope that you’ll be with someone or that they’ll love you, because then you could be missing out on other wonderful people. Also I don't think that life is like the movies. There's nothing wrong with knowing your options and keeping an open mind about people.

I haven’t figured out yet if I believe in soulmates or not. I think that it can go either way. At the time that I’m truly in love, I’m sure I’ll believe that person is my soulmate, but who knows what direction life will go in.