Who Can You Trust When In Need?

Who Can You Trust When In Need?

Three classifications of my acquaintances.

We each walk around day to day with loads of information in our minds, and we communicate with various individuals. I've recently decided to categorize the people in my life, platonically placing them in three buckets according to their brandwidth and ability to positively influence others.

I think of everyone as a nugget. The plain nuggets are the people who I recognize merely as acquaintances. I see them, I know them, we make small talk. Nothing more, nothing less. We may work together and exchange a small and brief "how are you?" in the hallway or elevator. There may be a spurt of emotion when I interact with them. It can be on social media through sharing a hilarious meme, posting a status followed by complete-sentence-hashtags, or leaving a shamelessly witty comment on someone else's update. Basically, brief, shallow interactions. The plain nuggets are valuable, but I don't need them. And they don't need me.

The golden-brass (GB) nuggets are those I have a history with or some kind of personal tie. We may have gone to school together, took dance lessons together, or played games on the front porch during hot summer days. There is more connecting us than trivial coincidental details. My GB nuggs are ones I can go months or years without face-to-face interaction, yet if they call me at 2am in need, I'll be there. There's loyalty here.

Finally, the smallest, yet most impactful, bucket is the platinum nuggets. I could count my platinum nuggets on one hand. They've been my associates for the least amount of time, but with their great inclusive nature, they have created a relationship that transcends small talk and shallow online interactions. These individuals constantly share their resources, so simply being in their presence is all you need to become motivated and refreshed. It is safe to be vulnerable around these nuggs. They are leaders who uplift, not direct.

I visited one of my platinum nuggets a few days ago. I arrived in her office feeling demotivated and mentally fatigued. I left with a great opportunity that will push me out of my comfort zone, challenges me, and makes me feel valued. We spoke for about 40 minutes. During our conversation, she fed me extraordinary ideas, things that push the envelope, things that stretch people intellectually and spiritually. I shared with her my feelings of being stuck and unable to get moving in a meaningful direction. She said jokingly, "you aren't buttering your bread." I laughed, but honestly thought I had been "buttering my bread." I work full-time, take graduate courses part-time, I read, I meditate, I workout, etc. etc. But somehow, I am not full. She proceeded to make a phone call to another woman (potential platinum nugget) that can help mentor me. Instantly, I felt uplifted. I know I have a lot of work to do, and some of it scares me, but I feel guided.

How many people can do that for you? Extend their network to yours? Give you a greater sense of value than you already have? That's powerful. That is elite.

All of my nuggets serve a purpose. The universe placed them to make life abundant. As we move through our lives, continuing to be lifelong learners, it is important to know exactly how others serve you. Not everyone is a platinum nugget, in fact, there are very few. When you find one, keep them close.

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A Letter To My Go-To Aunt

Happiness is having the best aunt in the world.

I know I don't say it enough, so let me start off by saying thank you.

You'll never understand how incredibly blessed I am to have you in my life. You'll also never understand how special you are to me and how much I love you.

I can't thank you enough for countless days and nights at your house venting, and never being too busy when I need you. Thank you for the shopping days and always helping me find the best deals on the cutest clothes. For all the appointments I didn't want to go to by myself. Thank you for making two prom days and a graduation party days I could never forget. Thank you for being overprotective when it comes to the men in my life.

Most importantly, thank you for being my support system throughout the numerous highs and lows my life has brought me. Thank you for being honest even when it isn't what I want to hear. Thank you for always keeping my feet on the ground and keeping me sane when I feel like freaking out. Thank you for always supporting whatever dream I choose to chase that day. Thank you for being a second mom. Thank you for bringing me into your family and treating me like one of your own, for making me feel special because you do not have an obligation to spend time with me.

You've been my hero and role model from the time you came into my life. You don't know how to say no when family comes to you for help. You're understanding, kind, fun, full of life and you have the biggest heart. However, you're honest and strong and sometimes a little intimidating. No matter what will always have a special place in my heart.

There is no possible way to ever thank you for every thing you have done for me and will continue to do for me. Thank you for being you.

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Age Doesn't Matter, You Should Still Play Minecraft

How my 10-year-old daughter has me playing her favorite game…


Minecraft is an online game by a company called Mojang where players can build and interact with cube-based worlds to create and play however they wish to.

My daughter has become obsessed with Minecraft. So obsessed in fact that she has dragged me into it. I've got an account now and worlds and we play in creative so we can build stuff. It's all rather odd to me, but she loves being able to play together, so we do. Here are my reasons you should be playing Minecraft no matter your age.

1. You Can Create Interesting Worlds


Apparently, there are tons of different types of worlds that can generate in Minecraft. You could play in the snow, a grassy plain, or even a huge forest of trees. The choices are endless.

2. You Can Build Tons Of Cool Stuff


We've made a house, a zoo, and are working on a massive treehouse in the sky. The possibilities here are endless too.

3. There Is A Huge Following/Community


So many people play and know Minecraft that if you get stuck on something like I did, you can always look it up and learn how to get that function to work exactly right when you need it to.

4. It Is A Great Way To Spend Time Together


Families can spend a bit of time working on a Minecraft world together. You'll get a chance to talk to and connect with your kid and they get to play a favorite game. It's a win-win situation.

5. It Is Actually A Whole Lotta Fun


This is pretty self-explanatory, but I have had a blast learning how to play Minecraft from my 10-year-old. She has just recently stopped calling me a noob (new player) every five minutes, but if I do something really silly in the game she still says that it was a noob moment.

Overall, if you've never played Minecraft, you should try it out just once to see all the great things this game can do.

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