Now sometimes somebody will say something yo us that is way off base and we can take it with a grain of salt. Hell sometimes a few people can be off about something but I have a theory about this particular subject , and it goes as such m for the most part of 10 people (maybe not 10 exactly) come to us and all of them say the same the same thing there is probably some validity to it. Where there is smoke there us usually fire right?
Now let me say this , a few years back there was very little i hated more than a bad attitude and incessant complaining . So to have several people , at least one whose opinion i value very much tell me that i am sounding like a victim , my initial reaction was outrage , followed by denial and excuses . I was infuriated , and feeling like my world was closing in on me. This just couldnt be me ! I could not be this weak minded crybaby.
Well afer all the kicking and screaming ended and the dust had settled and i was liying in a hopsital bed reflecting It finally became very clear to me that there people were indeed right and so the only thing i could do was take the bull ny the horns , it wasnt going to be pretty and it was not going to uncover the most flattering truths buried deep in the filth of my angry mind and spirit.
As it turns out this battle was not nearly as dramatic as my mind had made it out to be , in fact it was simple . All i had to do was STOP complaining so much , STOP beating myself up over trivial bullshit and most of all quit being so God damned self aborbed. Of course its not that easy , it is a continual process like anything else in life but it all starts in our thinking we can arrest a behavior in its infantile stages of we are just mindful of our negative thoughts and once we recognize them the hard part is stopping them and destroying them mercilessly . So let the destruction begin and in its place its time to build a new foundation that is strong and made from only the best materials instead of the weak twigs the original was thrown together with