Finding and maintaining a boyfriend these days can sometimes be difficult. I know plenty of people that have turned to dating websites like Tinder to try to find the "perfect one", but not everyone can find a boyfriend and maintain the relationship. I've had my fair share of boyfriends, and I learned many things about myself and what to look for in a future relationship. Being single is not a hassle to me, but being the only single friend in my friend group can get real annoying, real fast.
Now when I mean single, I mean, I am currently not looking for anything, pursuing anything, or even "talking" to a male. Most, if not all, of my friends either have boyfriends, or are talking to/pursuing something with a guy. Now, I'm not bitter at all. In fact, the guys that end up with my friends will be the luckiest guys in the world. I have amazing friends, and they all deserve the world. I've already planned how to get revenge on their boy toys if they ever dare hurt my friends. I also like all of their boyfriends, so don't get me wrong, but I cannot handle third wheeling all the time.
Being the single friend in the group, your friends are always trying to set you up, or encouraging you to get a Tinder. I don't think I'll find a future surgeon on Tinder, but hey, guess I'll never know. I appreciate the effort to find me a boy, mostly so we can double date, but it can get annoying. I feel like girls think that they constantly need a guy in their lives to be happy. That is FAR from true. I don't have a guy in my life, and I've never been happier. Working on myself and pampering myself has been something I've gotten used to doing.
Also being the single friend, you get used to third wheeling (or even sometimes fifth wheeling if you're lucky). There's some activities that I don't really mind third wheeling at, but there are some where I just feel like I'm a bother being there. Doing couple-y activities with actual couples when you're alone, is so awkward.
But on the flip side, being single has its pluses. You can focus on yourself, and not stress about boys or relationships until you're ready to stress about it. I can talk to guys, and not want anything serious out of it, and just stay friends, and have super good guy friends to go to for advice if I ever need it. And as much as I hate being the single one out of the group, I love all of my friends' boyfriends, and give them a round of applause for dealing with my crazy friends.
Also a small reminder to my taken friends, I am happy as I am. I do not need a guy to make me happy when I have myself. I appreciate the set ups, and the advice, but it will be taken at my own pace. I love seeing you guys happy with someone, and maybe I'll get there someday.
Also, tell your boyfriends to watch out, because I will run them over if they hurt any of you.
XOXO, Your Single Friend.
