Do you text your friends before going out reminding them to grab a jacket because it’s a little chilly and you don’t want them getting sick? Do you push them to go to classes and do their homework on time? Do you act disgusted upon entering their room and see that their bed is not made and that their laundry has not been done in awhile? Do you occasionally bring them snacks and/or ask them if they want anything to eat? Do you tease them about crushes? Do you ask them personal questions that might be a little too personal? Do you worry about their runny nose and search webMD for causes and cures? Do you feel yourself being concerned with how much sleep they are getting? Do you find yourself going to bed early?

If you answered “yes” to at least one of the questions above you are the mom friend. Welcome to the club. Being the mom friend is not a bad thing. As the mom friend, I have to say that it is pretty nice, a feeling that cannot be explained exactly. Hearing your friends call you “mom” can be weird at times, but I take it as a compliment and suggest that you do the same. Essentially they are referring to you as someone that they trust, respect, and love.

Your friends feel safe coming to you with a problem in need of your advice, they share secrets with you because they trust that you have their back and are not going to go blabbing, they stand up for you if someone tries to start something with you, they respect your opinion on things/people/decisions and try to consider them heavily because they know that you only want what is best for them. Being the mom friend is the greatest feeling in the world.

Honestly, I could not think of a bigger compliment.

Now, sometimes you find yourself being the mom friend with some people, but then other times you are not. I have realized that I was the mom friend in high school, and now that I am in college I have a friend that is so similar to my mom it is incredible. So here is to my mom friend...

Thank you. Thank you for being there for me when i needed you most. Thank you for listening to me cry and complain over my roommate, classes, boys, mean girls, and everything in between. I trust you with my life and could not be more grateful for you. You are the greatest human bean I have the pleasure of knowing. I love that you are so protective, kind, wise, forgiving, patient, and loving. I could not have asked for a better mom friend.

Being the mom friend is a privilege and an honor. If your friends start calling you mom, do not worry or get upset. They trust you. They respect you. They appreciate all you do for them. They love you.

Signed,

The Mom Friend