When Your Insecurities Try To Overwhelm You, Reflect On How Far You've Come From The Past

When Your Insecurities Try To Overwhelm You, Reflect On How Far You've Come From The Past

They'll always be there to scare you, but you have to show that they don't decide your life for you.

There are those days when you feel all of your insecurities come crashing down, and you feel like nothing you do will make them go away. You're on an emotional roller coaster that seems to only be going up for so long, but now, you feel like you're quickly falling. Those days will come and go, but what's important is what you can do to make them disappear sooner. When you feel bad about yourself, reflect on how far you've come from the past.

I, like many people, I pay a lot of attention to my body image because I do feel affected by standards to look skinnier. And there are days when I worry that it'll be impossible to reach the image that I want to look like, but I realize that I've done it before. Two years ago, I successfully lost 15 pounds in a few months with simple adjustments in my diet and exercise routine, and I was able to maintain that weight for over a year.

So, I can do it again.

I can fix how much I exercise and track what I eat like I did that one time, and that discipline I'd once built for myself will return. No matter how impossible it seems, I've done it once. I've actually proven my insecurity wrong before, meaning there's no reason for me not to be able to do it again. I do have to admit that it will be tough to get back into my old, healthier habits, but once I familiarize myself with those simple changes, there's nothing that can stop me.

Those fears in the back of my mind that drag my mood will no longer be able to tell me that I'm not stronger than them. Something to remember when they do appear is that they're just built off what you consider "perfect" compared to who you are. And although it's cliché to say this, you really are perfect just the way you are.

I look back to my progress photos from those years ago as I attempt to accomplish my new year's resolution of having a better image of myself, and I can see the evidence of an improvement in my image and my mood. I can see myself progressively get happier in each photo, taken once a week. I can see myself conquer my insecurities.

And the bad day passes, so I comfort myself back to my original, happy self. It's natural to have insecurities, and it's natural to struggle through those disheartening days. But they will always happen, and you just have to keep your head held high. You cannot expect to have insecurities and not do anything about them, expecting them to go away easily. You either have to defeat them by telling yourself that they don't matter or changing yourself to no longer be scared by them.

But letting your insecurities control how you see yourself is out of the question.

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30 Things I'd Rather Be Than 'Pretty'

Because "pretty" is so overrated.

Nowadays, we put so much emphasis on our looks. We focus so much on the outside that we forget to really focus on what matters. I was inspired by a list that I found online of "Things I Would Rather Be Called Instead Of Pretty," so I made my own version. Here is a list of things that I would rather be than "pretty."

1. Captivating

I want one glance at me to completely steal your breath away.

2. Magnetic

I want people to feel drawn to me. I want something to be different about me that people recognize at first glance.

3. Raw

I want to be real. Vulnerable. Completely, genuinely myself.

4. Intoxicating

..and I want you addicted.

5. Humble

I want to recognize my abilities, but not be boastful or proud.

6. Exemplary

I want to stand out.

7. Loyal

I want to pride myself on sticking out the storm.

8. Fascinating

I want you to be hanging on every word I say.

9. Empathetic

I want to be able to feel your pain, so that I can help you heal.

10. Vivacious

I want to be the life of the party.

11. Reckless

I want to be crazy. Thrilling. Unpredictable. I want to keep you guessing, keep your heart pounding, and your blood rushing.

12. Philanthropic

I want to give.

13. Philosophical

I want to ask the tough questions that get you thinking about the purpose of our beating hearts.

14. Loving

When my name is spoken, I want my tenderness to come to mind.

15. Quaintrelle

I want my passion to ooze out of me.

16. Belesprit

I want to be quick. Witty. Always on my toes.

17. Conscientious

I want to always be thinking of others.

18. Passionate

...and I want people to know what my passions are.

19. Alluring

I want to be a woman who draws people in.

20. Kind

Simply put, I want to be pleasant and kind.

21. Selcouth

Even if you've known me your whole life, I want strange, yet marvelous. Rare and wondrous.

22. Pierian

From the way I move to the way I speak, I want to be poetic.

23. Esoteric

Do not mistake this. I do not want to be misunderstood. But rather I'd like to keep my circle small and close. I don't want to be an average, everyday person.

24. Authentic

I don't want anyone to ever question whether I am being genuine or telling the truth.

25. Novaturient

..about my own life. I never want to settle for good enough. Instead I always want to seek to make a positive change.

26. Observant

I want to take all of life in.

27. Peart

I want to be honestly in good spirits at all times.

28. Romantic

Sure, I want to be a little old school in this sense.

29. Elysian

I want to give you the same feeling that you get in paradise.

30. Curious

And I never want to stop searching for answers.
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Don't Forget About Self-Love

It's been a long winter, don't forget to put yourself first.


For most people, spring break still isn't for another few weeks and let's be honest - it's very needed at this point. January felt like five months just by itself and it feels like winter has been going on for years. So amidst midterms, jobs, events, and everything else going on remember that sometimes you need to put yourself first.

It doesn't help anyone for you to be constantly busy and beating yourself up when one thing goes wrong. This especially doesn't help you. Everyone is feeling pressure from something, and no one is going to blame you for using some of your free time to get yourself back on track. You're much more useful when you're cup is full than when you're completely drained from trying to do everything at all times.

In college, we learn to be people-pleasers whether we want to or not. You want to impress your professor, your boss, and even your friends. You want everyone to think that you are having the most amazing time at all times. Sometimes a lot of negative feelings come up when you can't be doing something for everyone and then you feel liked you've failed.

This pressure is especially true for graduating seniors. We're all so focused on what's next and how we can maximize all our time left that we forget to take care of ourselves. We take on every project we can to prove we can do it. We try to hang out with everyone we know because we may never see them again after graduation. We constantly worry that we're just running out of time to do everything. Sometimes we forget that if we burn ourselves out now, we're not going to be able to do much later.

While the solution isn't to just give up and become a hermit, we need to realize that sometimes the best thing to do is to take a step back. If you have thirty different projects going on ask for help on some of them. Collaborating is much easier than drowning in endless work. If you have free time and you've been busy all week take a night off instead of committing to seeing every friend you have. Self-breaks are sometimes the best breaks.

In the end, remember that you're not alone by any means when it comes to anything you're feeling and sometimes it just takes getting away to get better.

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