When Your Insecurities Try To Overwhelm You, Reflect On How Far You've Come From The Past

When Your Insecurities Try To Overwhelm You, Reflect On How Far You've Come From The Past

They'll always be there to scare you, but you have to show that they don't decide your life for you.
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There are those days when you feel all of your insecurities come crashing down, and you feel like nothing you do will make them go away. You're on an emotional roller coaster that seems to only be going up for so long, but now, you feel like you're quickly falling. Those days will come and go, but what's important is what you can do to make them disappear sooner. When you feel bad about yourself, reflect on how far you've come from the past.

I, like many people, I pay a lot of attention to my body image because I do feel affected by standards to look skinnier. And there are days when I worry that it'll be impossible to reach the image that I want to look like, but I realize that I've done it before. Two years ago, I successfully lost 15 pounds in a few months with simple adjustments in my diet and exercise routine, and I was able to maintain that weight for over a year.

So, I can do it again.

I can fix how much I exercise and track what I eat like I did that one time, and that discipline I'd once built for myself will return. No matter how impossible it seems, I've done it once. I've actually proven my insecurity wrong before, meaning there's no reason for me not to be able to do it again. I do have to admit that it will be tough to get back into my old, healthier habits, but once I familiarize myself with those simple changes, there's nothing that can stop me.

Those fears in the back of my mind that drag my mood will no longer be able to tell me that I'm not stronger than them. Something to remember when they do appear is that they're just built off what you consider "perfect" compared to who you are. And although it's cliché to say this, you really are perfect just the way you are.

I look back to my progress photos from those years ago as I attempt to accomplish my new year's resolution of having a better image of myself, and I can see the evidence of an improvement in my image and my mood. I can see myself progressively get happier in each photo, taken once a week. I can see myself conquer my insecurities.

And the bad day passes, so I comfort myself back to my original, happy self. It's natural to have insecurities, and it's natural to struggle through those disheartening days. But they will always happen, and you just have to keep your head held high. You cannot expect to have insecurities and not do anything about them, expecting them to go away easily. You either have to defeat them by telling yourself that they don't matter or changing yourself to no longer be scared by them.

But letting your insecurities control how you see yourself is out of the question.

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65 Truths College Students Need to Hear Right Now

Truth every college student needs to hear.
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1. The best memories are ones you actually can remember.

2. God isn’t going to ask you if you were in a top-tier sorority or fraternity at the gates.

3. You failed a test, not your life.

4. Numbers don’t define you.

5. That includes the number you see that is your grade.

6. Also, how much you weigh.

7. As well as if you are a “7/10” on a so-called “hot scale.”

8. Or if you can bench press 200 lbs. (@ all the guys at the gym, please chill.)

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9. Innocence is nothing to be ashamed of.

10. Neither are mistakes.

11. But learn from your mistakes. Mistakes can be lessons, which can be the biggest blessing.

12. Your metabolism isn’t what it used to be and that is okay.

13. You may not always understand what God is doing, but I promise He has a plan.

14. Every person you meet is battling their own struggles.

15. Life isn’t always great moments.

16. But you have to walk through the forest to get to the mountain top.

17. Your heart isn’t damaged. It is temporarily broken but it will be fixed.

18. However, the only one who can fix a broken heart is the one who created it.

19. So a cute boy or hot girl can’t put the pieces back together.

20. Neither can ice cream.

21. But ice cream can totally help.

22. Stop texting your ex. He/She is your ex for a reason.

23. Loving Jesus means loving people.

24. Loving Jesus also means loving the image of Him in the mirror you see.

25. Stop hiding your emotions. Stop crying in the bathroom or behind a locked door. You have people in your life who care about you.

26. Suicide is never the answer.

27. Breathe in, breathe out.

28. Do you feel your heart pump? Do you feel the air exiting your body? That is a sign you are here for a purpose. Your life is no mistake.

29. Just because you doubt, doesn’t mean you don’t believe in Jesus.

30. However, when walking on the water scares you, look to Jesus and keep your eyes on Him.

31. If you have the opportunity to go to school go. There are young girls around the world who would do anything to sit at the desk you are complaining about.

32. Don’t pick a career based on money.

33. However, I promise you can use any passion or gift to serve a purpose bigger than yourself if you allow yourself to give it to the One who gave it to you.

34. You don’t need pretty prayers to please God.

35. Talk to Him like you are talking to a friend.

36. Look for the good in everyone.

37. That includes the mean girl who no one likes. Chances are she is mean for a reason. Someone was once mean to her. Kill her with kindness.

38. Pray to have the Lord’s eyes. See people with love.

39. Try to have the Lord’s hands, always be reaching out to others.

40. Each morning, pray to have the Lord’s feet and go where He calls you.

41. It is a bad day, not a bad life.

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42. You don’t need a six-pack to find a man who loves you.

43. You need a spouse who will be able to look at you when you are 80, and wrinkly and maybe a little chunky, and you need him to love you then. If he loves you for your body and your hair, I promise he doesn’t actually love you. Looks fade, but love is eternal. Find someone who loves you like Jesus.

44. Do some squats.

45. But squat so you feel good about yourself, not to attract the opposite sex.

46. You are never too old to find a new hobby.

47. You were beautiful before someone told you.

48. If you don’t know if you are in relationship or not, leave. You deserve clarity, not insecurity.

49. You deserve friendships that are mutual.

50. The best Friday nights are spent with a puppy and food. It is okay to not always be social.

51. Stop worrying about whether your crush will text you back.

52. Stop over analyzing everything in general.

53. Pray for your future spouse.

54. However, also pray for your future bridesmaids/groomsmen. Some of the most influential people you may have in your life you may not have even met yet.

55. Storms bring strength.

56. And storms bring rainbows if you are patient and observant.

57. Stop Pinteresting your dream life and start living it.

58. The Bible is actually extremely relatable. Open it up. Read it.

59. Romans 8:28 “and we know God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.” God is on your team. He wants you to have moments of celebration. He has a purpose for you greater than your bad day.

60. Never forget what Jesus did for you on that cross. When he died for you, it was painful and brutal. It was ugly. It was love. Don’t let that truth ever become numb to you no matter how many times you have heard the story.

61. There is nothing wrong with carbs.

62. Study. And don’t wait for the night before.

63. Find someone who you can look up to.

64. Also, never forget that there is always someone looking up to you. Act like someone you would want your future children to be. Act in a way that reflects wisdom.

65. Smile more, you are loved by the one who hung the stars and painted the sea. He created puppies and carbs–yet still loves you more. That is something to celebrate.

College is tough and life is hard. You are going to have moments where all you want to do is celebrate life with your best friends, but you will also have moments where you just want to lock the door, ignore everyone, and have a good cry. Never forget that your worth comes from something greater than your Biology grade, and from Someone greater that the one who broke your heart.

You aren’t too cool for Christ in college. Christ is a necessity for you in your life. He can hold your hand during your heartbreaks and failures and celebrate with you when you get the text back or a passing grade in foreign language. He loves for you and cares for you more than your sorority or fraternity ever will.

So buy your books, do your homework, but never forget when you are walking to you 8:00 a.m. you regretfully signed up for, to look up. Look at the clouds and the sky and thank your creator that in a big big world with many beautiful things, He still loves our messy hearts even more. So this one is for the boys for the King. This life is for the One who laid down His life.

I promise college is more fun when you dance with your Savior. Follow His lead and let him take you on a journey where you can find your purpose. You may not know where you are going, but you do know who you are following.

So never forget that although classes may be hard, and your metabolism may be slowing down–God is still good. He turns our ashes into beauty and our trials into our testimony. Do life with your creator and I promise you that you will have more than you need.

Romans 8:28 “And we know God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.”

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Hookup Culture Has Ruined Relationships

"Netflix and chill" has destroyed old-fashioned love and it sucks.

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What happened to going on dates to get to know someone? Going steady? Talking on the phone instead of texting? What happened to real, meaningful relationships?

Let me start off by saying that I am not writing this to bash hookups or anyone who does it. I simply just want to state my opinion on the matter.

Personally, hookups are useless. What is the appeal of going to a stranger's house, sleeping with them, and then leaving without any further communication? Is it the fact that you get a moment of pleasure with no strings attached? Is it to brag to your friends about the number of "bodies" you have?

If you do plan to talk afterward or become each other's regular hookups, doesn't it get awkward at some point? Is someone inevitably doomed to start having feelings?

One of the reasons why hookup culture has ruined relationships is dating. People have stopped going on dates or even dating altogether. It is so easy to go online, match with some, and just have casual, meaningless sex. It is like nobody actually wants to go on dates and get to know one another anymore because it is so easy to get sex from anyone anywhere.

What happened to bringing your significant other flowers or writing letters? Nowadays people just text "wanna chill?" and bring each other a condom. In my own opinion, it's ridiculous. This generation has taken love out of sex. There isn't such thing as "making love" anymore, because no one knows each other well enough to even say the word love. Nowadays, people hop onto apps like Tinder, Bumble, etc. and plan their next sex appointment.

Again, this isn't to criticize anyone who does hookup with others; it is to criticize hookups in general. I truly believe that the decrease in relationships these days is caused by casual sex and that we should fix it.

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