I've always loved my girlfriends, but all my life I have been more drawn to friendships with males. I grew up around twin boys that soon became like my own brothers and I just felt more compatible with male friendship. Even though boys can be ridiculously stupid sometimes, they are more grounding and logical for someone like me who lives in the clouds and overthinks everything. However, I've had one guy who has been my best friend since seventh grade. Will has been there for me as long as I can remember, and I am blessed to have had the privilege to grow even closer to him in college. We've been through a lot together and I've noticed some recurring themes that I'm sure other girls with guys as their best friends have probably been through, as well.
1. You always have someone to tell you to chill the hell out.
Sometimes, because I'm a girl, I tend to overthink everything and worry about problems that don't exist. Will is always there, though, to hear me out. And if my concern is rational, he gives me advice, but if it isn't he simply says, "Caitlin, chill out because you're thinking about this way too much."
2. They get the best girl advice because of you.
For some reason, guys don't talk about their girl problems with their other guy friends. But that's okay because they'll always be able to turn to their girl friends for help. And let's face it anyways, guys give terrible girl advice. So, we're here to give a girl's opinion -- the right one.
3. You've learned to habitually distance yourself when you're around a girl he likes.
Simply because you are a girl, you will be seen as a threat. So, you learn to make it clear to the girl of interest that there is nothing more than a platonic friendship between the two of you. You distance yourself physically when having a conversation, you try to pay more attention to her, and you never let him talk to you more than he talks to her.
4. The guys you date get jealous.
No matter how many times you make it clear, your boyfriend will always feel a little jealous about your guy best friend. Even though it is completely reasonable because you would do the same thing if your boyfriend had a close girl friend, you wish there was a way to ease the mind of your significant other. You know with every fiber of your being that you would never be interested in your best friend.
5. You always have someone to adventure with.
If you're like me, you love to be outside and, most of the time, guys love it too. So, if you are ever in need of an adventure to a state park somewhere, your best friend's got your back.
6. You keep him in check so he's the best guy he can be for the girl lucky enough to date him.
You always make sure you're removing all the bulls**t from his head that his friends are teaching him about how to treat girls and replacing it with the actual way to treat a girl. And he better thank you for it.
