This is what happens when you stop looking.
For anything really. When you stop looking for something, you find it.
Like that sweater that went missing... Once you decided the sweater was gone forever and accepted its disappearance, it pops up in your drawer, even though you swore you checked four times. I believe this theory can be applied to people too. It can be applied to your perfect match, your best friend, and your new adventure. For me, it was a combination of those three things. It was not until I stopped dating, swore myself away from boys, and decided I was all I needed, that he came along. I know it sounds cheesy to say I found my best friend and boyfriend all at once, but I did. It was right there in front of me all along, and it took me to stop looking, to find it.
If I could give any advice it would be to never settle. Never feel like you are working harder to make something work. Relationships should be a give and take. Not one person always giving and the other always taking. It will never work that way. Know your worth and do not settle. That is why waiting and being patient works. Stop searching for your type and feeling like you’re not good enough. Just stop searching all together. Things that are meant to be cannot be forced. If you’re forcing yourself to be someone you’re not, you will never find happiness. You need to love yourself. You need to know that you’re just as good with someone as you are without. Do not rely on someone else for your own happiness. When you realize that, good things follow. You feel at peace with yourself and know that this additional happiness is just that. It’s additional. You know how to be happy with loving yourself and now you can share that with someone. I was not looking for anything. I was ready to pick up my life and move far away to start over. And then I met him and I realized he is my counterpart. He brings additional happiness to my life. And over time, he has become so much more.
You never realize how important someone is going to be right away. Yes, first impressions are key, but they cannot predict whether someone will become your best friend or the love of your life down the road. Too many times people judge someone after the first five minutes of meeting them, and they form this negative idea about them. We are all guilty of it. How many times has someone you did not originally like turn into a friend… or vice versa? It happens all the time. So that boy that you did not think twice about, could turn out to be the one. That friend that you always just waved to, may turn out to be your maid of honor. These things do happen. That’s why it’s important to stop looking for perfection and let life happen. You never have to explain yourself or justify your feelings. Just know what you deserve and never settle for anything less. Love yourself and the rest will follow.
