When You Fall For The Girl Who Is Afraid To Be Vulnerable

When You Fall For The Girl Who Is Afraid To Be Vulnerable

Even if our heart whispers "yes," that risk is terrifying.

You've found yourself falling for a girl that makes you happy, who makes you laugh and you can't possibly find anything about her that is a flaw - if anything, her imperfections are what make her so likable. You have the best conversations that usually go on for hours - from passions, all the way back to your favorite movie in the world. You can practically talk about anything, and you make each other laugh. However, this girl is wrapped up in her own fears. She's good at hiding it, but you can tell that beneath the surface, she is terrified of letting anyone else close to her in a way that would make you the happiest alive. You've heard it in her voice when she's talked about her past. She won't admit it, but she is afraid to be vulnerable, to take those chances even though she very much wants to. Letting someone back in terrifies her. But you can try to understand:

First of all, please be patient.

You can't just expect her to snap out of something that has meant a lot to her. If you truly care about her, you will understand that some things take time, and she is taking time to understand herself, as she so desperately wants to take that leap of faith. Sometimes, people's emotions aren't just black and white, or logical. They can be an array of different colors, all blending into one another. It's beautiful, but it can get messy. She feels like she is wasting your time and that makes her feel terrible.

She has gone through things.

Even if it doesn't seem like a big deal to you, it's a big deal to her and going through this isn't easy. Her past is doing a good job coming back to haunt her present, and is trying to determine her future - even though, that is ultimately all in her power. However, it's simple to run away from things that were once familiar and comfortable, because people can be so easily afraid of getting hurt again. She's afraid of getting hurt again, so hiding is the safest route.

New love brings back old pain.

Those new feelings that she has towards you, are both exciting and terrifying. Feeling things for someone else is a reminder of what she used to feel with the person that broke her heart and basically destroyed her outlook on love and relationships.

Love isn't always equal.

Even though two people can love each other so much, there is always that part where someone is going to be the one who loves more - that person who puts in just a little bit extra than the other, the one who fights the most. Chances are, this girl was the one who fought a little bit harder than her ex significant other. She's afraid to put her heart on her sleeve because she's so used to trying harder and getting let down - and she's sick of it. She wants someone to also fight for her just as much.

She doesn't want to be like this forever

Believe it or not, she doesn't want to run away from falling in love. She feels trapped inside of herself, afraid she will end up alone just because her current feelings stemmed from her past cling so tightly to her, and are so strong. She so badly wants to shed those feelings of fear so she can move on with her life. She wants to fall in love. She is a romantic. She doesn't want to be this way, and she hates it.

I know that she shouldn't let this rule her, and she can't keep depending on the past as an excuse . . . but that's the thing - it's not an excuse, it's her reality. Shedding the past in order to become vulnerable again, isn't easy for some people who have been hurt multiple times. Other people can do it better, some, not so much. But that doesn't mean that they are not capable or are broken. Some of the most cooped up people who stash their hearts away, are some of the most romantic, and that's what is heart-breaking. Listen to her.

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37 Drake Lyrics From 'Scorpion' That Will Make Your Next Instagram Caption Go Double Platinum

Side A makes you want to be single, Side B make you want to be boo'd up.


We all knew Scorpion was going to be the summer banger we wanted. However, Drake surprised us with two sides of an album and two sides of himself. Mixing rap and R&B; was genius on his part, so why not dedicate 37 of his lyrics to our Instagram captions?

1. "Don't tell me how knew it would be like this all along" — Emotionless

Definitely a "I'm too good" for you vibe.

2. "My mentions are jokes, but they never give me the facts" — Talk Up

This one's for my haters.

3. "I wanna thank God for workin' way harder than Satan" — Elevate

For when you're feeling blessed.

4. "I promise if I'm not dead then I'm dedicated" — March 14

In Drake's story about his son the world knows about now, we get a lyric of true love and dedication

5. "My Mount Rushmore is me with four different expressions" — Survival

6. "Pinky ring 'til I get a wedding ring" — Nonstop

7. "I gotta breathe in real deep when I catch an attitude" — 8 Out of 10

This first line of the song is about to be spread on the gram like a wildfire

8. "Heard all of the talkin', now it's quiet, now it's shush" — Mob Ties

9. "California girls sweeter than pieces of candy" — Sandra's Rose

This is gonna have every girl who has ever stayed in Cali all hot and heavy, watch it.

10. "I think you're changing your mind, starting to see it in your eyes" — Summer Games

Y'all know how these summer games go

11. "Look the new me is really still the real me" — In My Feelings

When you've got to profess that you've changed 200%

12. "Only beggin' that I do is me beggin' your pardon" — Is There More

13. "Shifted your focus, lens lookin' jaded" — Jaded

14. "Back and forth to Italy, my comment section killin' me" — Can't Take a Joke

Necessary for when you've got people hyping you up already

15. "People are only as tough as they phone allows them to be" — Peak

Y'all can't have this one, I'm stealing it

16. "Work all winter, shine all summer" — That's How You Feel

Put in the work so you can flex on 'em, summer 18

17. "Blue faces, I got blue diamonds, blue tint, yeah" — Blue Tint

18. "I stay busy workin' on me" — Elevate

19. "Ten of us, we movin' as one" — Talk Up

The perfect reason to get the largest group picture you've had on your gram

20. "October baby for irony sake, of course" — March 14

This statistically applies to 1/12 of y'all reading this, so take that as you will (we October babies are the best)

21. "She had an attitude in the summer but now she nice again" — Blue Tint

22. "I know you special girl 'cause I know too many" — In My Feelings

23. "Gotta hit the club like you hit them, hit them, hit them angles" — Nice for What

24. "She said 'Do you love me?' I tell her, 'Only partly,' I only love my ____ and my ____ I'm sorry" — God's Plan

If you haven't used this one yet, get to it

25. "But I'm blessed I just checked, hate me never met me in the flesh" — I'm Upset

26. "It's only good in my city because I said so" — 8 Out of 10

Follow this up with a location and shoutout your hometown

27. "My haters either on they way to work or they arrived" — Can't Take a Joke

28. "I always need a glass of wine by sundown" — Final Fantasy

Has Drake ever been more relatable?

29. "It's your f***in' birthday. Happy birthday" — Ratchet Happy Birthday

Let's go get kicked out of an Applebee's

30. "I move through London with the Eurostep" — Nonstop

31. "I stopped askin' myself and I started feelin' myself" — Survival

Mood all summer 18

32. "They keep tryna' get me for my soul" — I'm Upset

33. "I'm tryna see who's there on the other end of the shade" — Emotionless

34. "Only obligation is to tell it straight" — Elevate

35. "It don't matter to me what you say" — Don't Matter to Me

This line from the King of Pop (MJ) will give you chills. R.I.P.

36. "I'm the chosen one, flowers never pick themselves" — Sandra's Rose

37. "Say you'll never ever leave from beside me" — In My Feelings

Couple goals, amirite?

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5 Reasons why Everyone Needs To start Watching the Netflix Reboot Of "Queer Eye"

What makes this reality show wholesome and heartwarming in a time of hate and turmoil.


This Netflix reboot of "Queer Eye" features Jonathan Van Ness, Tan France, Antoni Porowski, Karamo Brown, and Bobby Berk. For those who do not know the premise of the show, basically, a friend will nominate someone to become a better version of themselves with the help of the gay Fab 5. Jonathan handles grooming and new haircuts, Tan helps with fashion, Antoni teaches people how to make simple, delicious meals, Karamo is in charge of culture, and Bobby redoes the homes of the people in the show. What makes the show great is that the Fab 5 do not try to change a person, they help them gain confidence and to feel more secure in who they are. That and the following 5 reasons is why everyone needs to integrate "Queer Eye" into their life!

1. The show is a combination of house, fashion, and hair makeover.

The excitement every person feels at watching people become more beautiful.


There always comes a strange satisfaction from watching the shows on the Home Network channel, where they take these dumps and transform them into beautiful designer homes. With "Queer Eye" that satisfaction is only increased. You are not subjected to watching all of the strenuous dirty work that comes with transforming a home, and you get the addition of a whole-body makeover. Watching all of these people feel more confident in themselves with their body and home makeovers gives you the hope that you too can gain more self-confidence.

2. It is HILARIOUS (especially Jonathan).

Jonathan being fabulous as usual.


Not an episode of "Queer Eye" will go by without you laughing at something Jonathan says. Jonathan is by the far the most flamboyant of the Fab 5. With his exclamations of "Yas queen!" and "Fiercedom Honey!" it is hard not to be delighted by how outrageous he is. His flamboyance does not make the straight, white men on the show uncomfortable either. He infuses the situation with light and humor that makes them more comfortable being around 5 gay men that they may feel a little strange around.

3. The show betters the people not only in appearance but as a whole.

The inevitable tears of "Queer Eye."


I do not think that there is an episode of "Queer Eye" where the person being made over does not cry. The Fab 5 instills in them a newfound confidence that makes them feel like a better version of themselves. The one mainly responsible for the more internal transformation is Karamo. He has deep, important conversations with the people and works out what he can do to make feel more at peace with who they are and who they want to be. This show is wonderful in teaching that how you feel about yourself on both the inside and outside is integral in improving yourself.

4. All of the Fab 5 are gorgeous and have AMAZING outfits.

What a hottie.


This is one of the more superficial reasons for watching "Queer Eye," but it is still important. Seeing a wide range of attractive and confident gay men is both satisfying, and it helps for others to gain awareness that being gay does not mean you have to act or be a certain way. Someone who is gay can be feminine or masculine, or any other way they want to be.

5. It shows acceptance and love of everyone.



Unlike the original "Queer Eye," the reboot makes over all kinds of people, gay, straight, man, woman, Indian, Christian, and many more. They helped a gay man come out to his stepmother and had serious conversations about religion relating to homosexuality and relations between blacks and the police force. The people one would expect to be against homosexuality show the Fab 5 acceptance and love that the world needs.

This sweet show brings tears to my eyes almost everytime I watch it. The love and acceptance shown between such a wide variety of people give me hope that perhaps our world will eventually become kinder to everyone in it. Perhaps watching shows like "Queer Eye" can help every person to instill a little bit of kindness into their everyday actions.

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