When The Pain Is There, But You Can't Explain It

When The Pain Is There, But You Can't Explain It

Dealing with depression.

You feel crazy don't you? Something is off, but to others around you, you give off this image. this image is one you've created to feel like you're okay and everything is fine, but in reality, deep down, you're hurting. No, this isn't something a trip to the local drugs store can fix, or maybe an extra hour or three of sleep to get it off your mind. You're hurting and you feel alone, but you can't put it to words what is going on. For those of you feeling this way, this message is for you.

You're NOT Crazy

It hits you from out of nowhere. You get this overwhelming feeling and then you begin to cry. If alone, you're confused, you ask yourself "what's wrong? what's causing this?" and if you're around anyone they ask the same to which you can only respond with an "I don't know." Weird right? I mean, you're crying your eyes out, there's an ache in your chest and you feel the hurt and yet, you can't explain what's going on.

Thing is, depression is one of the hardest mental illnesses to diagnose. The signs aren't always clear as day. Depression is defined as a mood disorder causing a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest. Of course if asked, you'd say "no I'm not depressed, I'm fine" and it's that repression that causes the involuntary feeling of loss and hurt and inevitably causes changes that you of course can't explain. You're okay, you're not crazy.

Find Something You Love

There are moments with depression where you feel like you don't want to do anything. That loss of interest is a sign that something is wrong. Knowing this will help you get through the day and deal. What you want to do is focus on something that you love. Whether it's painting, going to the gym, dancing, anything that allows you to get out of your head for just a few minutes is all you need. In the moment you feel like you just can't do anything, is where it is imperative that you do this. Thank me later.

Step Outside

You're stuck and don't know what to do. There's a tight feeling in your chest and you feel another attack coming. An overwhelming feeling where you are no longer in control of your body and again, you can't explain why. Take a few steps, wherever you are, and find a place outside. Where are you? What do you see? What's the weather like? Are you alone?

It seems insane, I know, but just do it. Trust me. The fresh air is exactly what you need in this time. Hard to explain the scientific meaning of this, but the fresh air and being aware of your surrounding helps ease the pain in your chest and lack of control and works almost as a temporary distraction. A calming mechanism you could say.


But I am breathing. Right. That's what you think. Of course you're breathing but pay attention to that part. Sometimes in the moment you're losing it and you're scared and you want the hurt to stop, you get overly excited and you're releasing more carbon dioxide and not taking in enough oxygen, so your body starts to feel numb. Focus on your breathing. Deep breaths in, Deep breaths out.

Battling depression sucks. Sometimes, you don't even know that you're depressed and because of this you don't know how to handle it. For those who don't, above are a few tricks that helps. Is this a fix? Absolutely not, but; it's a step in the right direction. Just know that everything will be okay and that you are not alone. Just because you can't fully explain what is wrong, doesn't mean that your pain isn't as bad as anything else. I know sometimes it feels like you're going through this alone, but know that if you ever need anything, I'm here.


Someone who understands

If you are experiencing a medical emergency, are in danger, or are feeling suicidal, call 911 immediately. Suicide Hotline: 800-784-2433. Immediate Medical Assistance: 911. Crisis Call Center: 800-273-8255 or text ANSWER to 839863 or visit this website.

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

You go, girl.

We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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A Florida House Committee Is Undermining Your Vote On Amendment 4

Before felons can regain their right to vote, they must pay court fines, fees, and take care of any other "financial obligations." Essentially, this is a poll tax.


Amendment 4, also known as the Voting Rights Restoration for Felons Initiative, was added to the Constitution of Florida after being passed this last midterm election on November 6, 2018.

Amendment 4 restored the voting rights of Floridians with prior felony convictions after all terms of their sentence have been met, including parole and probation. This amendment only applies to felons who have not been convicted of murder or sexual offenses.

On January 8, 2019, an estimated 1.4 million ex-felons regained their right to vote. This is monumental. Prior to this amendment, Florida was one of four states that used felony disenfranchisement. Amendment 4 gives voice, and rightfully so, to felons who have served their time. Amendment 4 is also putting to rest, finally, years and years of disenfranchisement and suppression.

Now, only two months after its passage, the House Criminal Justice Committee is trying to water down this piece of legislation. This is a direct violation of the will of the 64% of Floridians who voted for the legislation as is. This amendment was not to be "clarified," as Governor DeSantis put it, but rather to be self-implementing.

However, the House Criminal Justice Committee proposed a bill that would tack on some extra qualifiers in order for felons to be enfranchised. The bill will require court fines, fees, and other "financial obligations" (in addition to fees administered in a judge's sentence) to be paid in full before a felon's voting rights are restored. This seems awfully similar to a poll tax to me. Obviously, this is going to affect people without a lot of resources rather than white-collar criminals who can afford a $500,000 bond.

This new qualifier will prevent felons from voting based on the money that can be coughed up as if they don't have to worry about their finances long after they leave prison.

Some may argue that these felons shouldn't have committed a crime in the first place. However, I would argue that holding a felon's vote hostage on the basis of money is unconstitutional.

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