When dating someone, to get to know them, you have to get personal. You share things about yourself and they share things about themselves. When they share deeper things, you share deeper things. The list keeps going, but when does personal get too personal? We all have differing opinions of how personal things should get and how quickly. How do we let the other person know this? When is personal, too personal?
First of all, the issue lies in the way things work in relationships today. We rely too heavily on social media and text conversations and not heavily enough on what we actually say to each other. We are one of the most untrustworthy and uncommunicative groups of people that this world has ever experienced. Instead of sticking around and trying to fix things, the second things get bad we run like the devil is chasing us. Some don't even run, they stay and find someone else to keep them busy.
It is so hard to trust people these days. We never know who is lying and who isn't. How do I know you aren't with someone else and trying to get with me. So when is personal too personal? We're all just trying to figure out who's real and who isn't. When we ask questions it's for a good reason. If those questions get too personal, it is really important that the other person is able to communicate that.
We need to learn to communicate openly with people that we plan on having a relationship with. Any kind of relationship. If someone is moving too quickly we need to be able to say "Hey, can we slow things down a little?" But It is just so much easier to run.
When did we get so scared to say what we want, instead of saying nothing and then running? All in all, it is most important that communication is happening. If personal gets too personal, whatever that means to you, then you should be able to say so. If someone does something that makes you uncomfortable or moves a step too fast then you should be able to say something. Running improves nothing at all. Running just leaves people thinking they did something horribly wrong, instead of something as simple as saying the wrong thing.
