"It's time to move on..." That is all a phrase that we have heard from one of our friends over our lifetime at least once. We listen to them say it, then groan, roll our eyes, and move on still holding on to the one thing we shouldn't like they never said that. But why do we do that? If you're anything like me, you are stubborn and hard-headed, you have to find out the hard way. You have to be let down at least five times by the same person before you start to wonder why you keep getting yourself in this situation because I am the type of person that sees the best in people and what they can truly amount to. But that can sometimes get you hurt.
I always hope for change for the better, but someone is not going to change unless they themselves want to. So why do we keep holding on? It becomes a habit that you really do not know how to live without. That person was there to talk to when you needed to and you always had someone to share your life with. They became your best friend. The thought of being with them brought you so much joy that you would do anything for that person to make them happy. You both enjoyed casually hanging out with each other, but the "casual" began to become a problem. One begins to hope for more, while the other is still enjoying the casualness of the relationship. The relationship soon begins to become toxic with strings, hurt feelings, being distant, and ignoring each other, when we know it should not be this way.
No matter how much you love them or how many times they say "I'm sorry" it does not repair the damage they've done. You get to a point where words mean nothing, and actions mean everything. But the actions never catch up with the words. It is living a constant battle of do I let go or do I try harder. We justify the reasons they act the way they do to make ourselves feel better. But we continue to have hope that it'll change when we know deep down that it never will. We hope for the impossible. We are hoping and praying for something to happen that may not even be in God's plan to happen. We become so consumed in the relationship when it is good, and then become so consumed in fixing it when it is bad that we do not even realize what damage it is truly doing. Choose people who choose you.
Quit giving all your attention and time to people who do not appreciate it. We constantly invest so much time into people who could care less, when we have a perfect Savior who desires to have all of our attention, and we give Him none. It's time to let go. Sometimes, you have to accept that some people can stay in your heart, but not in your life. You can only hope for and hold on to things for so long before you exhaust yourself in doing it. We hold on to things and people because it is something that is familiar, and the human nature does not like change. One day down the road maybe it will be God's will to let you have the thing your heart desires, but until then stop obsessing. Pray and let Him do the work.
Jesus replied, "You do not realize now what I am doing, but later you will understand." John 13:7
