There is a humongous difference between infatuation and genuine feelings towards someone. I feel as if this is a big misunderstanding that we all face at some point, but mostly as we embark our lives as young adults.

The discrepancy between this is superficial, and would probably save us a lot of heartbreak if we could notice the stark contrast between actually liking someone.

This infatuation we are speaking of is drawn from our need to project something on someone, or our need to fantasize. Yes, that’s fun and cute and whatever, but at the same time, we are completely setting ourselves up for failure.

The longevity of any relationship --familial, friend, romantic, whatever-- is founded not by potential, but by face value.

Understanding the difference between flattery versus honesty is kind of crucial in any relationship. You want a genuine foundation and connection; you don’t build honest connections in any relationship with the foundation of cheap compliments. Something that feeds your ego is fleeting, and it’s totally too easy to get caught in the trap of this being a genuine feeling.

There is a stark juxtaposition between getting attention and someone liking you. But this is something that we often don’t want to pay significant attention because it feels good to feel attractive.

And we’ve all been there and we’ve all fallen victim to this, or maybe you’ve been the one feeding someone’s ego and given the ingenuine attention because you were bored. Whether you have or you have not, it’s still important to know the difference between being loved versus being charmed.

It’s great to feel wanted; it’s warm and fuzzy and such. But it’s better to feel secure with something honest and true rather than a fleeting feeling of something frivolous.