We are coming of age and with that, future relationships are yet to come. When I was younger I believed that if I learned everything about the girls part: how to flirt, how to dress, how to wear makeup, how to stay interesting, humorous, energetic that it would all be enough, but it’s never enough!

Before claiming what many girls search for in boys, I want to note some tips for the gals:

1. Confidence

Whether it’s your first relationship or you've gone through a breakup or two, it doesn’t matter: GIRL, YOU MUST WORK ON YOUR CONFIDENCE! Without it, you will be in a lot of trouble! Without self-assurance, you may take crappy treatment that you don't deserve.

You may justify this treatment with excuses or you may convince yourself that your boyfriend is doing nothing wrong, that it’s you who is too sensitive, too demanding, too.... too... too.... but only with your intact confidence can you see if the partnership will or won't work since YOU'RE WORTH MORE!

2. Personality

Let your unique personality shine through so that your partner can learn about who you really are. Personally, I never hide my never-ending smiles and goofiness to anyone, including boys.

3. Compliments

Girls aren't the only ones who like to be complimented! Make sure to compliment your man, too! Make sure to comment on how great he smells, how funny his jokes are, how great he makes you feel with his well-planned dates.

Now for the boys:

1. Looks vs. Personality

It’s not about the look!... Well, it’s not about your looks as much as it’s about your personality. Where is your confidence? If you don’t have 100%, don’t worry, just work on it.

2. Starting a conversation

Some guys struggle with how to approach a girl even when they are interested. Don't stress! She is just another human! Be yourself and say hello. There is a ton of information online: Youtube, books, Google! Even seminars are going on for those who need personalized attention. Approaching a girl should be done with enjoyment and ease. Just like talking to your best friend.

When you are talking to your best friend, do you worry if the response will be negative, nasty, cold? No, you don't! Why? Because you don't care! You are just talking and you're absolutely sure that whatever response you get from your best friend (even if it's going to be: "Go fuck yourself!") you'll be able to deal with it. Same goes for the "girl situation." Take it easy, enjoy, and talk!"

You can find a girl who is interested in YOU and your natural conversations!

3. Be prepared to lose everything

Keep your girl interested. Even if you are finally in a relationship, the work isn't over. You may have gotten the girl, but now you have got to keep her! The longer you are in a relationship, the harder this becomes. Your intriguing, prepared-in-advance-dates are NOT over. Continue with maximum attention toward your girlfriend: compliments, hugs, kisses. If a girl is questioning if you love her or not after you tell her about your feelings this means that you're telling her what you feel, but you're not confirming it with your GENUINE actions.

It's easy to say a lot, but it's also easy for a girl to see if you mean it or not. Your actions don’t lie, thus, your actions can be your worst enemy. If you really love a girl, you will do everything to see a smile on her face. Keep learning through the internet; there is plenty to learn: how to dress, how to walk, how to dance, how to fix your posture, how to kiss, to look at her eyes, to connect with her, to hold her hand!!! Actually, holding her hand or touching the back of her arm with all your energy and electricity is a must.

Important to note is that you don't have to spend enormous amounts of money on a girl to make her happy, you just have to think of her!!! Ask her if she wants something (she will most likely say no, but she will love that you asked). You can even buy her a pen (or something small) because it reminded her of you. Thoughtful gifts are the best gifts.

4. Sex

Here is something interesting--SEX! Calm down amazing gentlemen! Sex is sooooo huge and soooooo important, thus, it deserves to stand on its own. I have a huge respect for this topic, so it deserves a separate article; however, I will say that to be sexually aroused, girls need plenty of attention.

Guys, it takes a lot of work, but if you love a girl, you will want to do it all.