The phrase, "It is hard being a woman" is very true and one of the hardest things women still have to deal with in today's society is judgment! Not saying that men aren't judged too because they are, but women have to deal with everyone's judgment. Judgment between other women, males, older women, older males, etc. It surprises me that in today's society, people state who a woman is as an individual because of the clothes she wears rather than thinking, "oh that's her type of style" or "wow! I wish I could pull that off."

Especially during holidays, such as Halloween where a good amount of women like to go all out with their costumes and dress "slutty." Just because someone has decided to wear a crop top, bralette, mini skirt, leotard, with high stockings and high heels does not define her as a slut. Her outfit also does not scream she wants to get laid, even if that is her personal goal by the end of the night.

Sometimes the girl who wears crop tops and tight jeans to school is the smartest sweetest girl in school, although her clothes might state differently. Same thing with the girl who dresses like a tomboy, she might not physically portray what society considers a "slut" but she could be one.

That's the kind of judgment some of us women receive from younger people than us or people our age. Then comes the judgment from elders. Elders have a different point of view of what they consider appropriate and inappropriate and a lot of it has to do with the centuries they grew up in and lived. We cannot really blame them for their judgment because years from now when some of us grow older we will have a similar mentality as them when we see how the newer generation dresses. With that said, there is something that could be done to change their harsh judgment, such as hanging out with our elders and watch Keeping Up With The Kardashians or hand them a Seventeen Magazine so that they are able to gain a sense of the current style.

All of this became an awareness to me when on Halloween I posted a photo and someone older than me had commented, "Where are your clothes? @me." Embarrassment wasn't even close to how I felt after a handful of people had commented positive things, i felt more confused that any other emotion. The person was in their late thirties and in my mind i couldn't comprehend her reasoning for such a comment because our present generation isn't so far off from when she was in her twenties. In the 90's, crop top and mini bottoms were also a thing among the young folks. I didn't know what to reply with so I felt the need to delete the photo. Things like that shouldn't be a thing. Just with those few words, I felt like I was being inappropriate and it changed my whole mood when I was just trying to look as cute as my friends and have a good time.