What To Do And Not To Do On A First Date

What To Do And Not To Do On A First Date

Most of all, have fun!
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Learn from other people’s experiences. Don’t have a dating horror story. While everyone will have bumps in the road along the way and some dating woes, there are certain things to never, ever do on a first date. I mean, you can, but why make it awkward for you and the other person?

1. Do not be vulgar. It’s not cool to curse like a sailor. No one wants to hear 'F this' and 'F that' while getting to know someone.

2. Try to be mannerly. Don’t be rude. Say please and thank you and be on your best behavior. First impressions are everything.

3. Do not talk badly about exes on your first date. It just makes you look bitter and annoyed.

4. Do not eat stinky foods like garlic on a first date. It’s not cute, especially when you go in for a kiss.

5. Do not burp or pass gas on the first date. That may be natural and a part of life, but do not make that a part of your first impression. Leave that for when you’re old and married.

6. Do not go on a date wasted! I don’t care if you’re nervous. Everyone has a slight case of jitters. If you don’t, it’s weird. But getting hammered or even a little tipsy before your first date will not be good if you act silly or don’t remember certain aspects of your date.

7. Do not talk about getting married or having kids on the first date. While it is pretty common that most people want those things later in life, it is not wise to scare someone off on the first date, or you may not get to the married and kids part.

8. Make sure you are on time. Nothing is worse than worrying if you’re about to be stood up.

9. If you have to cancel, make sure you give the person enough notice and when you do cancel, make sure you reschedule and make it up to the person or they will definitely think it is because you decided you don’t like them.

10. Make sure you look your best. Don’t wear sweatpants and a t-shirt on your first date, even if you’re doing something low key. It just doesn’t set the right tone.

11. Do not be completely self-absorbed. It’s okay to talk about yourself and your interests, but make sure you ask the person about their life, interests, job, family, etc.

12. Don’t be too shy. If you’re being coy to be cute, fine. However, if you’re just going on a date for fun, then make that clear. If someone is looking for a serious relationship to build, everyone needs to know your intentions up front so no one is hurt.

13. Tell someone how you feel instead of being passive. If you know that you are going to a steakhouse but you’re vegan, tell the person. I’m sure they won’t mind.

14. Do NOT, I repeat, do NOT be on your phone for the whole date. If something serious comes up and you need to answer a call or text, fine. However, do not be snapchatting friends and texting during your date. It makes the other person feel as though you are bored or uninterested.

15. Offer to pay. No matter whether you are a guy or a girl, chivalry is not dead. However, I always like to offer. It is not fair to assume the man has to pay just because that’s what tradition says is right.

16. Do not tell the person you have social media stalked them. Sure, we all do it. It would be weird to never stalk someone on social media, but it may not be the best idea to tell your date what you know. It may freak them out if you tell them about their aunt’s trip to Paris in 2007. Let them tell you (even if you know already).

17. Don’t act stupid or try to say that you’re interested in fishing if you wouldn’t be caught dead in a fishing bought (pun intended).

Lastly, be yourself on a first date. Don’t be nervous and most of all, have fun!

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​An Open Letter To The People Who Don’t Tip Their Servers

This one's for you.
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Dear Person Who Has No Idea How Much The 0 In The “Tip:" Line Matters,

I want to by asking you a simple question: Why?

Is it because you can't afford it? Is it because you are blind to the fact that the tip you leave is how the waiter/waitress serving you is making their living? Is it because you're just lazy and you “don't feel like it"?

Is it because you think that, while taking care of not only your table but at least three to five others, they took too long bringing you that side of ranch dressing? Or is it just because you're unaware that as a server these people make $2.85 an hour plus TIPS?

The average waiter/waitress is only supposed to be paid $2.13 an hour plus tips according to the U.S. Department of Labor.

That then leaves the waiter/waitress with a paycheck with the numbers **$0.00** and the words “Not a real paycheck." stamped on it. Therefore these men and women completely rely on the tips they make during the week to pay their bills.

So, with that being said, I have a few words for those of you who are ignorant enough to leave without leaving a few dollars in the “tip:" line.

Imagine if you go to work, the night starts off slow, then almost like a bomb went off the entire workplace is chaotic and you can't seem to find a minute to stop and breathe, let alone think about what to do next.

Imagine that you are helping a total of six different groups of people at one time, with each group containing two to 10 people.

Imagine that you are working your ass off to make sure that these customers have the best experience possible. Then you cash them out, you hand them a pen and a receipt, say “Thank you so much! It was a pleasure serving you, have a great day!"

Imagine you walk away to attempt to start one of the 17 other things you need to complete, watch as the group you just thanked leaves, and maybe even wave goodbye.

Imagine you are cleaning up the mess that they have so kindly left behind, you look down at the receipt and realize there's a sad face on the tip line of a $24.83 bill.

Imagine how devastated you feel knowing that you helped these people as much as you could just to have them throw water on the fire you need to complete the night.

Now, realize that whenever you decide not to tip your waitress, this is nine out of 10 times what they go through. I cannot stress enough how important it is for people to realize that this is someone's profession — whether they are a college student, a single mother working their second job of the day, a new dad who needs to pay off the loan he needed to take out to get a safer car for his child, your friend, your mom, your dad, your sister, your brother, you.

If you cannot afford to tip, do not come out to eat. If you cannot afford the three alcoholic drinks you gulped down, plus your food and a tip do not come out to eat.

If you cannot afford the $10 wings that become half-off on Tuesdays plus that water you asked for, do not come out to eat.

If you cannot see that the person in front of you is working their best to accommodate you, while trying to do the same for the other five tables around you, do not come out to eat. If you cannot realize that the man or woman in front of you is a real person, with their own personal lives and problems and that maybe these problems have led them to be the reason they are standing in front of you, then do not come out to eat.

As a server myself, it kills me to see the people around me being deprived of the money that they were supposed to earn. It kills me to see the three dollars you left on a $40 bill. It kills me that you cannot stand to put yourself in our shoes — as if you're better than us. I wonder if you realize that you single-handedly ruined part of our nights.

I wonder if maybe one day you will be in our shoes, and I hope to God no one treats you how you have treated us. But if they do, then maybe you'll realize how we felt when you left no tip after we gave you our time.

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12 Items That Prove Fast Food Is A Gift From The Heavens

Stop pretending like you're too good for McDonald's fries.

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It is no secret that fast food is a controversial topic. Many people have critiqued fast food for its high level in calories and lowness in nutritional value, and recent stories of how the food is prepared has not helped its cause. But let's be real. Fast food is always delicious, and hits the spot at any day and anytime. Stop lying to yourself and pretending like you don't like it, because we all know you do. Easy, convenient, and tasty...what could be better? Well, if you're not convinced, maybe I need to jog your memory a little bit...

1. Chick-fil-A's waffle fries

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Lmk why I'm always craving them the most on Sundays.

2. In-N-Out Burger's double-double cheeseburger

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If you don't get animal style, we can't be friends.

3. Chipotle's burrito bowl

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One day, I hope to live in a world where guac isn't extra.

4. McDonald's chicken nuggets

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These may be the greatest things to ever exist (along with pretty much every other menu item at McDonald's). Pair these nugs with some sweet and sour sauce and you're good to go.

5. Wendy's frosty

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If you don't dip your fries in milkshakes, can we even be friends?

6. Culver's cheese curds

The best is playing the game to guess whether you're going to get a yellow or orange cheese curd.

7. Auntie Anne's cinnamon sugar sticks

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I still have flashbacks to forcing my mom to buy these for me each time I went to the mall...my childhood weakness.

8. Portillo's baked mostacholi

The most delicious cheesy goodness you've ever tasted. Chicago knows what's up.

9. Potbelly's sugar cookie

Pro tip: Never check how many calories these are.

10. Panda Express' orange chicken

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UGH. Does this one even need an explanation?

11. Krispy Kreme's glazed donuts

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Literally the best donuts in the whole wide world, don't fight me on that.

12. Papa John's pizza

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The best of the worst.

Drooling yet? I will always admit that fast food is delicious and definitely the best bang for your buck. Those who say it's gross, greasy, and dirty are clearly mistaken. It's time to stop lying to yourself and go hit the drive-thru. Treat yourself! Your stomach and heart will be its happiest, and the diet can wait until tomorrow. But of course, everything in moderation.

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