I've heard from countless girlfriends about the guy they just don't know what to do with, time and time again.
Some of them are in love with him; some of them just can't stop thinking about him, and some of them even know how bad he is, but can't seem to help themselves from wanting to be involved.
If any of the aforementioned guys sound familiar to you, why not take a moment and read on?
I'm sure that you've heard everyone's opinions on him—that he isn't good enough for you, that he doesn't treat you right, that you can't be together for "fill-in-the-blank" reason—and still, you feel that there is some redeeming quality to him that makes you want to stick around.
I'm sure he's great. I'm sure he has some wonderful qualities. His mother probably thinks so, too, and it's fine that you don't think he's the scum of the earth. Very few people are all bad or all good, and most of us always have doubts about others and our relationships from time to time. There's not a man or woman out there who hasn't thought, at least at one point or another, "Am I doing the right thing here, being with this person?" It's very normal, and it's even healthy, but there's always a catch to that questioning.
From those I've heard it from, it's usually a recurring thing. The more we talk about it, the more I hear them answering their own question: "What should I do about him?"
The answer is simple, and you know it. You know exactly what to do with him because it already occurred to you and you promptly shut it down all in the time it took you to read this sentence.
Whenever I'm considering a big purchase or even a small one that feels a bit extravagant, I tell myself to put it off for awhile. If I'm still thinking about that same thing in a few days, it's obviously worth the buy. Not to compare a new shirt with romantic endeavors, but I feel that there are similar leaps of faith going on here—just on slightly different scales.
My point is this: you know there's a conflict here. You either want to be with him or you don't. Really, what others have to say is worth considering, especially when they know both parties involved, but it isn't their choice in the end. It's yours. I say, if you've been considering making the leap between dumping him or dating him for this long, you might as well do it.
And as far as the shopping metaphor goes... Wouldn't life be that much simpler if everything came with receipts and 30-day return policies?
