Every day we see successful people, sometimes on TV and sometimes in real life. We always hear stories about how hard it was for them to reach their success. The path to success is a difficult one, the one that everyone wants to conquer but not everyone achieves it. What does it really mean to be successful? What success might mean to you is different than what it means to someone else. It might mean to a high school student to get an A on a physics exam, or to a reporter trying to get the hottest story out there, or to an attorney who’s been trying solve this big case, or a father who wants to put a smile on his child’s face, or Donald Trump who’s been trying to build the wall.
There are several definitions of success created by each of us. To put it simply, success means to be happy and content with what you have striven for, you don’t need to be rich or famous to be successful. Our definition of success is what we want it to be and how we want it to be. There are a handful of successful people out there when compared to the unsuccessful. We all came into this world with nothing, so then why do only some of us get everything? What is it that is stopping us from reaching our success?
These days we are too busy to learn about others. When we wake up in the morning the first thing we do is reach for our phones and check our Facebook to see where Sam went on his vacation or how Rebecca got her promotion. We compare ourselves with others and wish that we could do what they are doing. We get envious and frustrated which ruins our whole day and stops us from reaching success. The successful person focuses on themselves first; they don’t care what Kim Kardashian is upset about or how many cars Tai Lopez has in his garage. They go out there and do what they need to to climb the ladder of success. They don’t compare their success with others because at the end of the day, they know that they give their best.
Some of us aren’t where we want to be in life because of the people we surround ourselves with and sometimes these are our friends who are stopping us from growing. They tell us that we can’t do something or be someone and that really affects our self-esteem. We stay on the same path forever and don’t grow spiritually, financially, mentally, or physically. We do that because we are scared of change and trying new things and want to stay comfortable.
By staying with the people who are satisfied with their life we start picking up their habits and their characteristics and then eventually we start living their lifestyle and never reach the level of success we want. The successful people know that change is good and they surround themselves with people who want more out of their lives. They find mentors who are more successful than them and instead of being jealous, they admire them and see that as an opportunity to grow and learn great skills. They know that to reach the level of success, they need to get to an uncomfortable spot first where they will then grow. They know that they deserve better and they have to work for it.
We always wish for things. We wish for being rich, we wish for having best friends, we wish for a sports car and we also wish for a big house, but what do we do after wishing? Nothing. We still do the same things we do before, we don’t set goals and we don’t change. We think by wishing, we will get everything we want without realizing that we have to put a lot of work in for that wish to come true. If we don’t get the things we wished for, we became pessimistic about everything and become frustrated from life and never grow. The successful people wish for things too, but then they set goals and persevere to achieve those goals. They are always optimistic, even when things are not looking their way. They are willing to feel the pain, feel the struggle and feel uncomfortable to achieve what they wish for because they know that success comes with sacrifice.
All the successful people we know and are inspired by did not reach success easily, they did not wait for the opportunity, they created the opportunity. Success will not come to your door steps by itself, to reach success you have to go out and put in the work for it. You have to focus on your own life, rather than staying busy knowing what others are doing. You have to grow by surrounding yourself with people who are ambitious and are not afraid of change and will support your dreams. You have to choose mentors who are more successful than you, so you can learn new skills. You will have to change and grow and choose an uncomfortable path. You will have to set goals and work your butt off to achieve those goals. You will have to stay optimistic and be happy on your way to success because it’s not the destination that matters, it’s the path to that destination.
