Break ups are hard.
They start out gut wrenching and tear jerking. They become the worst thing you think will ever happen to you. They become something that can consume you at times. They become the thing you can't stop questioning yourself about. They become the thing that tears you down and makes you feel small. But then all at once, they become the life changing and eye opening moment in your life.
I'm sure when you opened this you expected a story of someone who was cheated on or someone who lost their significant other for some god awful reason. Or maybe you're thinking that I'm going to tell you the most personal details of what happened for me. Unfortunately for you, that's not what this is.
Love that's true has no bounds and it has no judgement. While it takes time to build up and become the best thing for both parties involved, it also has to crumble down into a million pieces. Love is hard. It's said to be patient and kind, but before that it has to be hard. Things ending was hard for me. I didn't see it coming. I didn't think it was fair. I didn't feel like it was what was best. Then it hit me, I only thought this was wrong because I was only thinking about me.
Before we move any further, please don't think that I'm some spineless jellyfish who believes that your significant other should have this power over you. I believe in standing up for yourself. I believe in saying how you feel. However, I also believe in considering both sides. Especially when it comes to the person you love.
Sometimes it's hard to think during a monumental blow. You're really only thinking about what you're feeling rather than how others involved are. You're thinking how could they do this? How could they feel this way? When all of a sudden it will hit you, this is bigger than just how you feel. This is about the person you love. This is about what's best for them. This is the true test of how much you care about that person. This is the complete and total representation of how much you respect that person.
So before you go and get to thinking that this is the end of your world, remember. Remember everything that made this person, your person.
In the end, I guess what i'm really trying to say is that you can still be in love and not be together.
