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What Do I Look For In Somebody?

Having standards does not mean you are being picky

Erin Blackburn
Oct 24, 2016
St Ambrose University
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What Do I Look For In Somebody?

What do I look for in somebody? Everyone always seemed to have this list of what they want in a significant other and it always seemed so superficial and shallow to me. Why would I want to sit there and have a checklist in my head every time I met someone seeing if they met those standards? The thought of that always seemed absolutely absurd to me. So I went on with my life with not really having an idea of what I looked for in someone else until I realized that I was not happy with the people I was letting into my life. I would always just settle for the person that said the right things, and if there were qualities I would not like about them, I would just overlook them because I didn't want to be too "picky". But guess what? I deserve better than that and so do you.

Once I spent awhile being single and learning to love myself and appreciate who I am, I decided that if I am going to let anybody in, they have to love me for who I am, and never expect me to change. Making myself a priority was the best thing that I could have done, because now I know that I deserve better.

So what do I look for? Here are just a few things

1. Someone who is genuinely kind

2. They do not make fun of people for being different, and know how to be respectful.

3. They don't put other people down to make themselves feel bigger/better

4. Has ambitions and goals

5. Supportive of the things I am passionate about

6. Listens to what I have to say and is someone I can confide in

7. God is an important part of their life

8. laughs at my jokes (I'm funny so it's kinda impossible not to)

9. Someone that makes me laugh (good sense of humor, obviously)

10. Makes life more enjoyable

11. Open-minded

12. My family loves them

13. Respects my opinions and beliefs

14. I don't have to change who I am so they will like me

15. They don't change who they are to make me like them

16. Being around them naturally makes me a better person

17. Hardworking

18. Has good taste in TV shows

19. Gets along with my friends

20. Will be my best friend


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