I think most people all have a moment when they don’t believe they’re enough or good enough. Sometimes it’s because your best friends are total dimes and you never feel like you’re comparable.
The term DUFF (designated ugly fat friend) became relevant when the movie "The Duff" came out about two years ago. People began to see similarities, whether it’s because of people asking about your best friend or not even knowing your name but knowing you as someone's friend.
Now, everyone should know that every person should be proud of who they are. Even if people don’t acknowledge you for who you are. No one’s opinion of you matters but we’re all entitled to feel a little negative every now and then.
People don’t realize that sometimes you can’t change your mindset if you’re not feeling good enough. It doesn’t help when your best friend is turning heads and you’re basically her wing woman so guys tend to go to you to ask if she’s single or if you could move so they could talk to her. It’s kind of a self-esteem killer.
Sometimes it’s as little as you being everyone’s buddy and never feeling like someone’s first choice, especially when their first choice is your best friend (or so you think). I know I’ve caught myself thinking that people think I’m funny and they like me as a person but that’s as far as it goes, I’m not someone going to catch a guys attention based on my appearance. That’s an awful thought because, at the end of the day, that’s what you want, you want someone to like you because you’re a great person, have a great personality and funny. But there are moments when you just would like to be looked at because you’re catching their attention and not because of how good looking your friend is.
Even without guys, you go shopping and she can buy anything she wants because it’ll fit her where you may not have the same success and you may have to shop in the “plus size” section. Although we may be confident in ourselves, it’s just a reminder that clothes aren’t really made for girls who are bigger. Another notch you’re knocked down.
As humans, we have this ridiculous idea that we have to compare ourselves to others around us, especially people we believe to be what others want. It’s hard to remind ourselves that we aren’t a duff, and if we are, everyone is a duff to someone. Like the movie "The Duff" says, there will always be someone better than you or prettier or this or that. It doesn’t make it any easier but it certainly doesn’t have to be as negative as it is.
Everyone and no one is a duff. I doubt anyone will be 100 percent happy with everything about themselves, we can only hope that one day we won’t be as hard on ourselves. We’ll learn to love the things about ourselves that we didn’t think we’d ever love.
