Being the significant other to someone can be challenging at times. It can incorporate stress and tears some days while others it has laughter and smiles.
Now multiple that by 2. That's what its like to be the significant other of a young parent.
There's two scenarios to how this can work; civil or not civil. If you're in a civil situation of this, please pray for those who aren't as fortunate as you.
What being in this position means:
To take on the role of being a young step parent can be challenging. You basically get thrown into a pack of wolves. Stay supportive of your partner, especially in the cases of the situation not being able to be civil. But,
EVERY CASE SHOULD BE CIVIL, for the sake of the child(ren). Some of us just don't get that lucky though. You have parents that will use the child(ren) as a pawn in their sick and twisted game. If this is what you're dealing with, remind yourself that you have to always be the bigger person.
Being the bigger person is not always the easiest. In the non civil situations, you are going to want to give up. The other parent has more than likely called you every name in the book. They have probably started using you as a reason that your S.O shouldn't see their child. Don't give up. Don't let their harsh words get to you. The only part that is really hurtful is the fact that your significant other is getting the consequences for basically choosing to be happy. You'll get tired of seeing them hurting from this and I know that ending your relationship will pop into your mind, don't give in. That's how the other parent wins. But eventually, love conquers all.
On the flip side though, being a parent is great. Being a step parent is even better. You get to help mold this little human into something great. You'll get to leave an imprint on them for the rest of their lives. You get to shares holidays, birthdays, and lots of "firsts" with their little ones. Coming home from rough days at work to little smiles and sweet laughs, it changes your life. I promise nothing is better than the feeling of getting to love not only one person like in regular relationships, you get the pleasure of loving two beings with all your heart.
The situations can be difficult. Ultimately, getting to be apart of a little one growing up is the best reward. Being able to share something that special with the one you love is wonderful. The fact that, even though the situation might not be ideal, someone is letting you be apart of their child's life and you will be grateful for the rest of yours. As the most important thing to remember is, don't let the non civil parents harsh words and actions get to you. That child is going to be more loved than they will know what to do with and that's what truly matters.
