It really is a conflicting feeling, to be the mom in your friend group. We want to be fun, relaxed, and carefree, but we also have need to be responsible at all times and think realistically. This is usually for the sake of our own sanity and good hearted intentions. Sometimes we feel the need to give our two cents, even if it hurts the people around us. We mean well but it would be nice if the ones around us wouldn't make us look like the bad guys. I swear we are not Debbie-downers, buzz-killers, or your actual mother (even though we might act like it here and there).
People make mistakes and it takes a while for us to get used to that. Sometimes we have to learn to let go and metaphorically "take off the training wheels." No one is perfect and it hurts to see our loved ones get into sticky situations they could've easily prevented ahead of time. It's hard to keep our mouths shut, but we do it because we care, not because we're controlling. When we know something is wrong, we feel the need to say it right away. Every friend drama, boy fight, girl fight, parent conflict, or self-identity crisis is meant for us to help you and listen to you, not to judge you.
It bothers us "moms" when we're called controlling, unsupportive and annoying for expressing our thoughts. Sometimes we feel the need to tone down our "mom radar" because of the consequences we face afterward. No one likes to be called the words stated above, especially coming from someone who can confide in you and vice versa. It would mean a lot if you didn't make it seem like you take us for granted.
It can be quite draining sometimes; the stress of whether or not you should state your opinion. I firmly believe that there is a time and place for everything. Obviously, breaking bad news wouldn't work when you're not in the right mindset to hear it. But when they do come, usually the words come out a lot harsher than intended. When we get that uncontrollable feeling where we're about to explode, it makes it harder to wait any longer and or find the appropriate time to say things. Please do not take any offense to this, we only mean well. We are not un-fun, boring, controlling, annoying, and unsupportive. You know that we are always on the sidelines for you, cheering you on, and providing that shoulder to cry on. Please know that it is hard to be the kind of person that we are. Just remember that we will always have an honest opinion if you want to hear it. At the end of the day, your mistakes are yours to make.
