I am 20-years-old and married. When I tell people this, they give me the puzzled look. If you're young and married, then you know the look. It's the look of confusion because you went against a social norm.
Sorry, I'm not sorry. Here's what it's like to be married at 20:
1. I get to see my husband succeed and he watches me do the same.
At the end of a rough day of school and work, I get to come home to my husband. When school gets hard and I feel like backing out, he's there to support and love me. He's there to help me through the rough times.
2. I will get to travel the world with him eventually.
They say to travel when you're young and they're right. Before life sweeps you off of your feet, travel, see the world and all that it has to offer. Get lost somewhere and learn a life lesson. I get to do it with my best friend. By getting married young, we have more of an opportunity to travel and experience this amazing world together.
3. I get to learn with him.
In your college years, you learn about yourself and learn lessons that carry you through the rest of your life. Being married, I get to learn about myself as well as how to be a wife. I get to learn those life lessons and learn all about life with my biggest supporter on my side.
4. I get to grow with him.
You learn your life lessons. When you're young, you grow into who you are. This time is when you grow into who you'll be as an official adult. By bing married at a young age, I not only get to grow into who I am, but I get to grow into who we are. I get to grow into the adult who I'll be as well as growing into the wife who I am. It's a two-for-one if you will.
5. I get to start my life with him.
When you wait to get married and finally do get married, it can sometimes be messy. Each of you has built a life separately and now you have to smash them together and make it work. Being young and having absolutely nothing (college, man) and then getting married and still having nothing, means less stress! When you finally start to acquire stuff (hello, wedding gifts) you get to have stuff together. How cool is that?
6. I get to know his past and watch his future.
There's no baggage. I was his first serious girlfriend and he knows my entire past. There's no guessing. There's no secrets. There are no skeletons in the closet. It's just us. It's nice.
7. I get to share my milestones with him and he gets to share his with me.
Graduating college and getting my first big-girl job, I get to share all of this with him. When he got his first big-boy job, I got to be there for him and support him. By marrying young, we'll never miss an important event in the other's life.
8. I get nothing but time with him.
Not only do I get him for the rest of my life, but there's no rush for anything. I get him for life. We didn't rush to get married, we got married because we loved each other. Now, we have the rest of our lives to figure out our life together.
9. I get to learn how to manage money with him.
Being broke teaches you how to stretch the dollar. When you finally have money, you don't waste it. OK, maybe you do, but it's only a little bit.
10. I get to be molded by him and he gets to be molded by me.
Being young, we aren't set in our ways. These crucial times will help us in the longer run. We get to mold each other to make our relationship great. We get to learn, grow, and help each other out. I get to learn what makes him tick and mold myself to that, just as he does for me. We fight, (Who doesn't?) but we learn to communicate better and, therefore, we do less fighting.
11. I get to be with my best friend.
At the end of the day, I get to be with my best friend, my partner in crime, and the one who lights up my world. No matter the age we are, we should all be happy when someone finds their person because that's what matters.
I'm happy that I found my person. I'm 20 and married for the rest of my life and I wouldn't have it any other way. He gets on my nerves and he make me mad, but, at the end of the day, he's my person and I love him for everything that he does.
