What It's Like To Be An Only Child
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What It's Like To Be An Only Child

"Only Child Syndrome" can kiss my left nostril.

What It's Like To Be An Only Child

Being the only child is a double-edged sword. It has its advantages, but those walk hand in hand with disadvantages.

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I was raised as an only child, so I know first-hand how it feels to grow up without a sibling. It isn't always fun, but at the same time you can't imagine it any other way. If you're an only child, these things probably apply to you:

1. You’re independent

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If you were raised as an only child, you’re probably used to doing things on your own. For example, building blanket and pillow forts. You don't need to wait for anyone else's permission or company to have a good time.

2. People think you’re selfish and "spoiled rotten"

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3. All of your parents' hopes and dreams were on you.

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As an only child, your parents looked to you to prove they were good parents. You had to get the grades they wanted you to get, behave the way they wanted you to, and exceed their expectations or you would risk disappointing them, or worse, getting the “I must be a terrible parent” speech. If your parents were involved in your life, you were likely not free to fail. It’s a lot of pressure for one person.

4. No one shared your childhood

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5. You need more alone time

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As an only child, you likely spent a lot of time by yourself, playing or doing homework. Even if you had a lot of friends and your parents were around often, alone time was inevitable. Now, as an adult, you may find that you need more alone time than your friends in order to feel like yourself. This can cause problems, especially if you’re used to spending the majority of time on your own and aren’t sure how to reconcile that with the demands of a friendship.

6. Having a roommate in college was a challenge

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If you went to college, you probably had to deal with a roommate at some point. This likely posed challenges. For example, one of my roommates didn’t have much of a social life and liked to be in the room when she wasn’t at work or in class. This was not a problem until our schedules aligned in such a way that she was almost always in the room when I was. Even though I really liked her and we had a good relationship, I found myself irritably snapping at her more often because my need for alone time was not met.

7. You have a rich imagination

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Regardless of how often your parents played with you, chances are you logged a ton of solo play hours. This meant that you made the rules, created the characters, and enacted your stories. You are likely still excellent at keeping yourself entertained and may have even found an artistic center.

8. You struggled with sleepovers

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Because you weren’t used to sharing your space with another kid, sleepovers may have been difficult for you. Of course, you’re excited for your friends to come over and play, but then they don’t go home until the next day. It was worse if they snored or didn’t ask the rules of the house before doing things.

9. You felt lonely when friends went home afterward

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No matter how much you may have struggled with sleepovers, after your friends left, your house felt empty and lonely as, once more, you had only yourself to play with.

10. You dreamed about what it would be like to have a sibling

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11. There was no one to cover for you if you messed up

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12. Your parents were strict

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13. You probably don’t like it when people touch your stuff without permission

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This is the behavior that people commonly cite when claiming that only children are selfish and don’t work well with others. As an only child, you were used to having control over your possessions and your space. Thus, as an adult, you expect to have the same control. Personally, I don’t see a problem with this. If you want to use someone else’s belongings, you should ask first. It’s called common courtesy.

14. Your parents' house is a shrine to you.

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15. You know yourself really well

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Because you were often alone, you learned a lot about yourself. There were few, if any, people around influencing you, so you got the opportunity to develop a strong sense of who you are as an individual. This comes in handy when making life decisions—you know how to make yourself happy and are likely to weigh it properly.

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Being an only child was not easy. You had to grow up watching everyone fight and play with their siblings and wonder what it must be like to always have someone. You also bore the stigma of "Only Child Syndrome"--a so-called disease that means you are obviously selfish, self-centered, and terrible to be around. *insert eyeroll here* In the end, though, you're okay with being an only child. You wouldn't be your fabulous self without the hard lessons that it taught you.

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