Transgenders are a normal part of the community and have been around for centuries. According to the Bilerico Report, evidence shown them to be around as the beginning of storytelling of Native people. What these stories do not give us is a personal view of their life. My fiancé and I have been together for almost three years and we are getting married in October 2018. My fiance and I are a normal couple, with the exception of a few things, as told in one of my earlier articles: "What It's Really Like to Date a Transman." Getting married is something that is hard to plan, and figuring out certain aspects is hard when your love is still going through a constant hormonal imbalance.
My fiancé and I have been together for almost 3 years, and are pretty much married, minus the legal documents. We've been living together for two years this past July, and we were the stereotypical lesbian couple that moves in after a few dates. I do not regret moving in with him. With the tense moments and the roller coaster of a ride that this transition has put through us, I still love him with all of my heart. We are pretty much a married couple, as we have stuff that is ours and we have a joint account. All we need is the legal documents and a party.
Since it came as a surprise to the family about my fiancé's transition, getting married is something that is a big discussion. I am still in the planning stages of our wedding. The stereotypes that had to be relearned when my fiancé came out as a male was fun on both ends. We are not going to have a traditional wedding, as we are not a traditional couple. My fiancé is both super excited and overly stressed about the planning, whereas I am naturally more calm and stress-free because I know it'll get done. If I am not careful, I'll have a groomzilla on my hands (just kidding). Discussing who pays for what is a traditional part of wedding planning, and I am thankful to have a family who supports me, and in-laws who are super supportive.
As the planning comes along, I get more and more excited to start this new chapter of our lives with my travel, food, Disney/Universal, everything partner. Planning a wedding comes with its own set of challenges and perks. Discussing plans and remaining calm through the whole process is not as easy as it looks. Everyone makes fun of me because as much as a perfectionist, and that I am planning slowly. I am so thankful to have everyone who wants to be and is involved with this wedding because it truly is something that I definitely plan to do once and never again.
And we can't wait.
