The dictionary defines “father” as “a man related to his natural child or children.” Although I have a man in my life that satisfies this traditional definition, I cannot say that I wholeheartedly agree with it. A “father” is much more than someone who shares your blood.
I’ve learned through observation that many different types of people can and should be considered fathers. And, alternatively, many should not. First of all, just because someone contributed half of your genetic makeup does not mean that they deserve such a title. To be completely honest, that took very little effort on their part. A father is there for you at all hours of the day. He may not have cut the umbilical cord and he may not have changed thousands of diapers, but he will be there to pick up the phone at 2 a.m. He will be there at every sporting event, choir concert, competition, science fair, theatre performance and award ceremony. He will step up to the plate and be the person you need him to be.
A father figure can be found in anyone worthy. Someone who treats you and your mother with love and respect. A coach that pushes you to do great things and takes pride in your achievements. A teacher that helps you talk through problems and encourages you to follow your dreams. A close family friend. An uncle. The list goes on and on.
There’s one more dad that people often neglect to acknowledge. Moms. I know, I know, it seems counterintuitive but hear me out. Single mothers have to be both parents, whether they want to or not. They defy gender roles and raise amazing individuals while doing so. I commend any woman who has done everything in order to give her kids everything.
As Dad’s Day rolls around this time next year, try to expand your definition of “father.” And to anyone who dreads this holiday, just remember that there is someone out there that loves and cares for you, regardless of their relation. You just have to open your eyes (and your heart).
