Talking about anxiety is something that I have always felt comfortable with. Even though it is something I have struggled with for a very long time, it is something that I have been able to voice out. But what I never really talk about is what it is like to date somebody with anxiety…or really what it is like to date me…someone who struggles with anxiety. So here are 5 things that you can expect dating an anxious person.
We only want what is best for you.
I find that when I date somebody, I genuinely care about their passions and goals. So, I always push them to be at their very best. If you date an anxious person, you definitely will not be doubting yourself because we make it our mission for you to know how amazing you are.
Some things...actually most things, are very overwhelming.
Whether it is going on our first date or meeting your parents for the first time, these acts of life can be very overwhelming. Remember to calm us down and be patient.
Patience is key. Acknowledge the anxiety attacks.
I think a lot of people who don't have anxiety don't understand what we go through, therefore at times cannot be patient. The best thing to is acknowledge us when we have anxiety attacks, and be patient with us. Don't pretend it's not there, and understand that it will pass. If there was a way to make all of our anxiety go away, we would.
We have days where we are really sad for no reason.
This is a big one. A lot of people who have anxiety have their days where it is filled with sadness. This is definitely a real dark side of living with anxiety. Those days feel like everything sucks and we become dead to the world. The only way to really get us through it is by listening and again...being patient. It helps a lot.
Love us with everything you have, because that is how we love you.
It is very possible for our anxiety levels to decrease when we are offered love and compassion. A person who has anxiety thinks the worst of themselves, so they would never make someone else feel like that. We love you for all your flaws, everything you are. That is how you should love a person with anxiety. Love them for their anxiety attacks, love them for their depression, and love them for who they are.
Anxiety isn't exactly a first date conversation, but when you decide to take the next level with somebody who lives with it, you need to be fully committed. Speaking for myself, it has been very hard to find somebody who understands or even tries to understand it. So for all of you people who do have anxiety and find somebody who is willing to be patient with you and understand you, hold them tight and never let them go. And to the people who are dating somebody with anxiety, remember to love them, care for them, and do what you can to make them happy. Because if you spend your time doing that, we will spend the rest of our lives trying to do the same for you.
