5 Things Every Homebody Away At College Needs To Know

5 Things Every Homebody Away At College Needs To Know

There's nothing quite like your hometown.

1. The first week is the hardest.

Obviously, it is hard to say goodbye to your family, your bestfriend and everything else that you are the most comfortable around but no one tells you the annoying truth - it doesn't get easier for a little. The pit in your stomach that appears while you watch your parents get in the car and head back to your hometown without you, doesn't go away the second they are no longer visible.

Everyone tells you the goodbye is hard but no one tells you it gets harder as the days go on. When you first arrive on campus, the longer you go without your family and your home the more homesick one will become. Give it a week, or so, and then you will finally warm up to the idea of the independence you now have.

2. Everyone feels lonely - and thats okay.

Even if you go to a university where half you high school also goes to, you will still feel lonely. It is so incredibly different from being in your hometown and seeing faces you have grown up with everyday to walking on campus and seeing one familiar face - or very few. The truth is, even if you see ten familiar faces a day, no number could ever give you the same comfort you are used to. It is totally okay (and normal) to feel lonely at the beginning. Living with a new person, in a new place, without your family will definitely come with lonely times. Little things that we take advantage of in high school and barley notice, now become things you miss the most when you no longer have them.

3. You anxiously await the first time you’ll visit home.

If you’re a homebody, it is very likely you already have the first time you’ll come back home planned out before you even leave. The idea of watching Friday Night Lights at your old high school, sleeping in your bed, showering without shoes and being in the place you feel safest is something you can’t wait for. The first time visiting home will help with feeling homesick tremendously.

4. You’ll appreciate your family in ways you never knew were possible.

For most people, the reason they are a homebody isn’t necessarily because of their home, itself, its who they share it with. You love being home because you love seeing your family all the time. Once you go to college, there is no doubt that you will have a new found appreciation for them and all the things they did that you never realized you loved. You’ll learn to appreciate your mom asking you how your day was.

You’ll miss your dad making you laugh every time you talk. You’ll even miss fighting with your siblings over practically anything possible. You’ll start to understand that you miss these things because you miss your family and the genuineness you all had as one.

5. Give a few weeks and you’ll fall in love with your new home.

Although the college transition can be tough, especially for us homebodies, it is worth it in the end. You picked the school you’re at for a reason, and you’ll fall in love with everything. You’ll make amazing friends because you have the same interests, not because of proximity. It is totally normal to struggle at the beginning, but stick it out because it can only go up.

College is the start of the rest of your life, and there is a long road ahead filled with memories you will cherish forever. Let go of the scary thoughts and appreciate the time you can go home and see all your old friends, your family and your pets, but remember life is starting to move on - and you must to.

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Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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Here's What Happens When All Of Your Friends Have Babies

All of my friends back home are married with children. No, really, they are.


Over the past few months, three of my friends have shared their pregnancy news with me, and I couldn't be more thrilled. Baby news always stirs up a range of emotions for me. I'm excited and crying happy tears (no joke, I started to cry when my best friend told me and showed me her ultrasound).

Being "Auntie Meg" brings me such great joy. You see, I absolutely adore children, especially my friend's kiddos. They can easily brighten up my day with their giggles, love you, and their goodbye kisses & waves. I absolutely love getting to be "Auntie Meg"; it could potentially be my favorite role to fill.

I don't think I've ever loved human beings more than I love these babies. These are kiddos I would do almost anything for; they truly have my whole heart and I couldn't be more thankful for each and every one of them. I've loved getting to watch my friends grow into incredible parents.

I love getting to be one of the biggest cheerleaders for my friends and their kids. Listen, I can't wait for the day when they are older and are asking to come over more and spend time doing fun things with auntie Meg. I can't wait to watch them grow and I can't wait to be able to come alongside them and be a shoulder to cry on and one of the loudest voices cheering them on (Next to mom and dad, of course).

While there is just so much good about your friends growing up and having children of their own, if you are not careful, it can also fuel a person's self-doubt.

It can bring up questions like, "am I good enough?", "what is wrong with me?", "why am I not where they are at?" I would be lying if I said that I have never thought or felt these things, but here's the thing: you are good enough, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, and their path is not your path; you will get there when you get there.

Those things are so important to remember in times when you begin to doubt yourself or your worth.

Believe me, you are good enough, there is nothing wrong with you, and that is not the path you need to be on at the moment. This is a great time for you to focus on you and the things you want out of life. What are your goals? What is on your bucket list? Just because you don't have the things your friends have, doesn't make your life any less fulfilled than theirs is. Your life is just as wonderful and fulfilling as theirs is, just in different ways.

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