High School Isn't As Great As Everyone Makes It Out To Be

High School Isn't As Great As Everyone Makes It Out To Be

More people seem to be against you than on your side, despite how kindhearted you try to be.


With graduation creeping around the corner, many seniors are finding themselves either already nostalgic, stressed, or stuck. Or, all three if you're really going through it. Planning a graduation party, deciding on a post-high school plan, and getting prepared to leave home can be an immense amount of pressure.

Part of me wants to believe that the feeling of that rolled up piece of paper with a ribbon tied around it dropping into my hand on the stage will make the AP classes, the five SAT's I took, and the countless breakdowns worth it. In the grand scheme of things, high school is rough, but I know that what's to come in college and the real world will probably be a lot more challenging.

Whether it's the teachers who have shown me an extensive amount of patience, or the gym teacher I never had that called me sweet the other day; if high schoolers didn't have that kind of support system around us, I genuinely think we'd go mad and crumble under the pressure eventually.

Whether it's the lunch table full of freshmen that just need to stop yelling at 10:50 a.m. on a Monday, or realizing that the homework assignment from last night ended up having more questions on the back right when I'm about to turn it in; high school helped me realize that not every inconvenience is detrimental, and not every mistake is a failure.

It can be hard to talk yourself back to reality sometimes. In the world of high school, everything is either enough to collapse your entire world or not nearly important enough to bat an eye at (ironically, the latter always being when it actually matters).

It's the land of extremity. More people seem to be against you than on your side, despite how kindhearted you try to be. It seems to be high-school code or something; plus, everyone's still figuring themselves out and it's a rocky road to travel along, even for the most perfect of us all. Regardless of that, just as there will always be one person against you, there will always be the people by your side who you don't recognize to be so essential at the moment.

Especially during senior year, the cycle of "first lasts", to just lasts until you're all done, can be a harsh reality for some to face. It truly matters how you spend those moments and how you treasure the little things while you have them. The people who contribute to those moments make them even more worth living, even if you don't recognize how much they contributed until your 10-year reunion.

I know that the day I flip the tassel will be one of the most memorable days of my life, leaving behind my childhood to pursue my future career. High school definitely may not have been the best 4 years of my life, but it would be a stretch for anybody to say that high school is an invaluable, worthless experience.

Those four years teach you what you like, what you don't like, and what you should learn to tolerate. High school isn't about the extremities, the breakdowns, and a grade point: it's about learning, growing, and taking every moment in while you can.

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A Thank You Letter To The Best Teammate I've Ever Had

There's no "I" in team.

We all have those amazing memories when it comes to sports. Sometimes it is from winning tough games, but most of the amazing memories that we have come from the teammates that we shared those wins with. Teammates are the people who you spend so much time with that you eventually become a family. Teammates do more than help just win a game; they can be there through everything. There's always that one teammate that stands out from the rest, and this letter is for you.

Thank you for being selfless.

Looking back, I remember a lot of teammates. Some were great and some were not that great. I've had teammates who have only cared about their playing time. I've had teammates that have only cared about if they score more goals or more points than anyone else. You did not care about that. If the coach told you to play a position that you did not want to play, you still played it without a complaint. If I was tired at a certain position and wanted to switch you, you did it. You never complained about where you were playing or how many goals you had; you just wanted the team to win.

Thank you for having my back.

The best kinds of teammates are the ones that support you no matter what you do. I got a red card? That referee is stupid. I got into a fist fight during a game? You were the first one next to me swinging. Some girl makes fun of me on social media for messing up in a game? You were roasting her in her mentions. Even if I was right or wrong, you always supported me no matter what I did.

Thank you for seeing me at my worst and building me back up.

There are always times in an athlete's life where we run to the point to where we need to throw up. There are times where we go through games and miss too many shots. There are times where we get a little too mad at our coaches and feel as if we cannot deal with it anymore. You were the one that got me through it. When I was in the middle of a run and my lungs were burning, you stayed right next to me and reminded me that there wasn't much longer to go, even if there was. You always reminded me how capable I was by yelling at me and telling me to go score. You've seen me tired, sweaty, crying, screaming and throwing up. After all that, you still went out of your way to build me back up and I cannot thank you enough for that.

Thank you for making me love the game.

Without people like you, I would have had a very rough ride through my sports career. I have had teammates that have made me go home crying because they were so mean and rude. I have had teammates who have only cared about themselves. Without you, I would've forgotten what a good teammate is. Looking back, all I remember is the celebrations, the screaming random songs in cars and us hating each other's exes automatically... Then talking about all these things at practice. Thanks for being a leader with me. Without you and the rest of the team, I would not have loved the sport that I played.

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I'm Not The Person I Was In High School And I'm Not Sorry I Changed

I'm sorry, the old me can't come to the phone right now.


If those who knew me in high school hung out with me now, they probably wouldn't recognize me. If my friends from college hung out with me around two years ago, they probably wouldn't recognize me. It's safe to say I've changed... a lot. I definitely find the change to be for the better and I couldn't be happier with the person I've become.

In high school, I would sit at home every night anxiously waiting to leave and go out. Now, honestly, going out is the last thing I want to do any night of the week. While everyone in college is at a fraternity party or at the bars, I prefer to sit at home on the couch, watching Netflix with my boyfriend. That's an ideal night for me and it is exactly the opposite of what I wanted to do a couple of years ago. There's nothing wrong with going out and partying, it's just not what I want to do anymore.

I craved attention in high school. I went to the parties and outings so I could be in Snapchats and photos, just so people would know I was there. I hung out with certain groups of people just so I could say I was "friends" with so-and-so who was so very popular. I wanted to be known and I wanted to be cool.

Now, I couldn't care less. I go to the bars or the parties if I really feel like it or if my friends make me feel bad enough for never going anywhere that I finally decide to show up. It's just not my scene anymore and I no longer worry about missing out.

If you could look back at me during my junior year of high school, you probably would've found me searching for the best-ranked party schools and colleges with the best nearby clubs or bars. Now, you can find me eating snacks on the couch on a Friday night watching the parties through other peoples' Snapchats.

Some may say that I'm boring now, and while I agree that my life is a little less adventurous now than it was in high school, I don't regret the lifestyle changes I've made. I feel happier, I feel like a better person, I feel much more complete. I'm not sorry that I've changed since high school and I'm not sorry that I'm not living the typical "college lifestyle." I don't see anything wrong with that life, it's just not what makes me happy and it's not what I want to do anymore.

I've become a different person since high school and I couldn't be happier about it. I have a lot that's contributed to the change, but my boyfriend definitely was the main factor as he showed me that staying in can be a million times better than a night out. My interests and my social cravings have completely transitioned into that of an 80-year-old grandma, but I don't regret it.

Change doesn't have to be a bad thing. In fact, it can bring a lot more happiness and comfort. The transition from high school to college is drastic, but you can also use it as an opportunity to transition from one lifestyle to another. I don't regret the lifestyle flip I made and I couldn't be less apologetic about it.

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