This is for the one who is going through heartbreak. This is for the girl who is feeling every bone in her body ache and her heart feeling numb. This is for the guy who just realized he lost the one girl who would have walked the earth for him. This is for the people out there who are experiencing pain unlike any other. This is heartbreak.
The unique quality about heartbreak is that everyone experiences it differently. Some are in denial, others are numb to the core, and there are the few who just break. It’s a hole in your heart that is a constant reminder. Every memory, every adventure, every kiss, and every word runs on a constant loop in your mind. Your heart aches for the one whom you've shared almost every moment with. It’s breaking down in the school cafeteria, putting every memory into a box, deleting photos, eating pints of ice cream or feeling too sick to get out of bed, and crying out more tears. You feel as though your heart physically hurts and is drained of all the loved you had stored up. It feels like you are an empty tank running low on energy and just walking through the motions, but not really living anymore. Left in the dust of confusion, all you ask for is answers. The tough part is: when will you get these answers? How long will you have to wait?
Sometimes you won’t get your answers. You may spend years wondering what went wrong, or what you could have done differently. You may spend hours analyzing every conversation and looking for red flags. The hard cold truth is that at this moment in time, the two of you weren’t meant to be. That is the probably the hardest thing to grasp. How could it go from “I Love You” to “I Don’t Love You Anymore” within seconds? People change their minds. We are constantly changing and evolving and becoming who we are. Our preferences change and we seek out other relationships to explore. You are probably torn between holding on to a love or letting go of someone who doesn’t want to be with you. As hard as it’s going to be, you must let go.
Let go of the confusion, the anger, the denial, and the tears that this person has caused you. Let go of that toxic energy in your life. Begin to focus on yourself because at the end of the day, you should always love yourself. Take yourself out on a date; buy yourself flowers, go for a drive to the beach, or go shopping. Have sleepovers with your friends and watch silly movies. Lean on your mom’s shoulder and cry out all your tears until you can smile again. Create new memories to fill the void of the old ones. Within time you will move on. It will get easier to see hear their name and it will get easier to see them throughout town. Soon, the fake smiling will become real and the drop in your stomach will disappear. Each day you will forget them less and less until they become a memory.
The feelings of heartbreak will dull one day. You will be able to open yourself up to love again. You will meet someone who treats you right, who won’t take you for granted, and who will show you what love really means. The risk of heartbreak lies in every relationship, but if you never take a leap of faith then you may miss out on the chance of love. Never forget that heartbreak and pain is temporary. You are beautiful, strong, and deserving of love. You will get through this.
