1. Oversized t-shirts
I would like to first thank all you men that have done me wrong for the best gift you could have given me and that gift would be all the free oversized t-shirts. From long sleeve to short sleeve these are all treasures to me. Except for the fact they occasionally remind me of the unknowing donors. There are few things on earth (except for iced coffee and puppies) that I love more than a free t-shirt. And for the record, no you cannot have them back. Sorry not sorry.
Ok so now onto the more serious issues.
2. Teaching Me How To Love Myself
There’s nothing like not feeling good enough for someone or several someone’s over and over again to really make you feel unloved or unlovable. But thanks to the guys that made me feel this way I learned to love myself first.
Like the lyrics from a good ole Drake song “ I love me enough for the both of us”. I’ve learned to love myself enough to walk away from people who don’t see my self-worth. And I’ve learned to love myself enough so that if someone doesn’t love me I can still be there for them.
3. Teaching Me Patience
First off let me just say I’m not patient because any of you were worth waiting for. I’m patient because I have been able to give each of you the opportunity to step up and when you didn’t do so time and time again, one after the other, I have been able to not give up on the male race as a whole (at least not yet).
4. Making Your Friends and Family Love Me Even More
Well, as if your family didn’t already love me enough after they learned the full story of how crappy of a guy you were to me they couldn’t help but empathize with me. Which was probably in large part because I put up with your BS for so long with a smile on my face and was so good at hiding it. And for your friends that wanted to like me but just couldn’t because they thought I was keeping you from them, well now they realize that with or without me you’re still a terrible friend and now without me, you’re not as much fun (sucks to suck).
5. Teaching Me To Put Myself First
For example, choosing to end a relationship with Christ over a relationship with a man, I had to choose what was best for myself over trying not to hurt someone else. It is so easy to live with someone that you know inside and out and that you’re comfortable with. But my question to you is would you rather live with what is easy or live with what makes YOU happy.
Of course it's unrealistic to think you will always be happy in a relationship. And it is also not a bad thing to put the happiness of someone you love over your own happiness. However when you are with someone you love and that loves you doing that will not be one-sided. Your partner will reciprocate the same selflessness.
6. Lust vs. Love
This is one of the more valuable lessons I have learned and until you have experienced both of these things it is a hard lesson to learn. It is so easy to get caught up in the moment and mistake passion for love. And this passion is Lust. It is not Love. If you ever for a moment are confused as far as which is which please understand that love is not just conveyed physically in a relationship, which by definition is lust.
7. Relationships Are A Dime A Dozen.
And for the most part most of the relationships I have been in have not been too terrible. I really am very thankful for the lessons I have learned from these individuals and I hope that along the way I have taught them a few things too. Here’s to being smarter about the significant others that we choose and allow into our hearts!
