I am an extroverted introvert or an ambivert. An ambivert is someone who displays qualities of both introversion and extroversion.

If you’re like me, you probably hated filling out quizzes that measure personality, like the Myers & Briggs Personality Type. Answering the multiple-choice questions always seemed really hard for me.

Well, I guess it could be this one, but I would also do this. I don’t know it really depends on the situation. Throws pencil down in frustration.

I would end up always answering whichever one crossed my mind first.

For instance, most people would assume that I am an introvert because I am fairly quiet most of the time. That doesn’t mean I am not extroverted on other occasions. There’s a thing called situational introversion. Which means that depending on the surroundings, people, and context my personality can lean more towards introversion or extroversion.

Here are a few things an extroverted introvert would like you to know.

1. We do our own thing.

I’ll wake up at 9 a.m. on a Saturday morning; enjoy a cup of coffee while listening to First Aid Kit and sit in silence. While my friends are still asleep, I take my time in the mornings to do my own thing and just chill out.

2. Making plans for the evening.

It really depends. On occasion, I will go out and have a good time, but staying in for the night sounds just as appealing.

3. Prefers hanging out one-on-one.

Yes, I can function in social settings. However, I do enjoy just hanging out with a single person one-on-one without the distractions of what other people are doing.

4. Do you talk?

As I sit here writing this article, it’s almost 3 in the afternoon and I haven’t had a full on conversion with anyone. I could probably go a full day without talking, I just don’t say much when I don’t have anything to say or I think others wouldn’t be interested.

5. Having a few close friends versus a staple group of friends.

I know a lot of people that I consider friends, but I really have maybe 2-3 close friends.

6. My attitude is off-putting.

I’ve had people say my lack of emotion, shyness, etc. is off-putting for them. What am I supposed to say to that?

7. Texting.

For me, texting takes up a lot more energy as compared to actually just being with someone. Give me two minutes and I’ll stop over or I don’t know if you want a really awkward texting convo then hit me up I guess.

8. Balancing alone time.

Closing yourself off from people sometimes makes you lonely so finding a good balance between alone time and people time is a must.

9. We spend time and energy on the people and activities that matter most.

If I like you then I’ll spend the time getting to know you, and pretty much your bff.

10. We stick together.

I have friends who also identify as extroverted introverts, so usually we stick together at parties where we feel out of place.

I think I lean more toward tendencies of an introvert, but interaction with other people is unavoidable so I’ve adapted my habits to become more extroverted. I’m apart of organizations that are centered on communication, as well as my major. Sometimes I just need time to have silence in order to process