Everyone has someone they can call their best friend. Someone they can constantly hang out with, and maybe make some people think you’re dating because you’re so close. A best friend should be someone you can trust 100 percent and always count on. But sometimes, it isn’t that easy.
All relationships need effort to make them work, and that means friendships as well. If you just expect your friend to support you all of the time and be your go to, but make no effort to be the same for her, it just won’t work. Likewise, if you are constantly putting in work and trying to hang out and she just doesn’t try or care, it is going to suck. Before you cancel plans or decide that going to her upcoming event isn’t important because you would rather be doing anything else, think about how you would feel if that situation was reversed. You expect your friends to put in work, so you have to as well.
That’s another thing: expectations. It is normal to have certain expectations about your friendship. However, if you expect them to act the same as you, you’re going to have a bad time. Remember that even if it seems like you guys are exactly the same person and think the same, you probably don’t. You can’t be upset if your friend acts a different way than you expected. Also, it is very easy to put unrealistic expectations on a friend. Just because you would wake up at three am if they called and be over to their house right away if something was wrong, it doesn’t mean that they will necessarily do the same for you. It’s not because they don’t love you, it’s just because they show that love in a different way than you would. And maybe they just like their sleep.
Friendship is awesome and it can be amazing when you find someone you just completely click with. However, it is easy to forget that it won’t always be perfect. Even if you fight, just remember that as long as you both are putting in effort and respecting each other, you’ll be able to work it out and your friendship will be even stronger than before. I know that sometimes I need to work on remembering not to set unrealistic expectations for my friends, and just love them for who they truly are. I don’t know what I would do without my friends and I am thankful that I have found such great ones.
