Strength? Hardened? Sexy?
No you see these scars aren't building blocks. They are not the past because the skin is still faded and the scar is still noticeable.
This scar right here does not make me better than anyone.
This scar next to it does not prove my self worth to be greater than yours, or anyone else.
You see this scar over here? I bet you have a scar like this somewhere on your body. Whether it be visually, or emotionally our scars are similar. Do I think I have been through worse than you? Absolutely not but let me listen to your story and try to understand your scars. After I will tell you how my scars came to be and why you need to know why they are important in understanding my life.
It is not a popularity contest or competition, I honestly want to know where you have been.
Your scar is more faded than mine, why? Have you thought about it more and tried to erase it? Or have you forgotten your past and allowed it to deteriorate? Have you let people touch your scars and taint them like a greenish coin that once sparkled copper? Do you hide those marks like insecurities beneath layers of clothes or let them ripen under the sun for eyes to discover?
I bet he has a scar on his heart from a teenage lesson. I guarantee she makes up for what she thinks looks like with makeup. That girl probably has a scar there, but this guy has a scar in the same spot and they continue to argue whose is worse.
Why is it that color, cause mine is in that area and is a different pigment?
Explain your situation and experiences with me so I do not have to feel sorry for you but rather I can think and imagine what your scar means to you. Do not feel sorry for my scars either because I know you have scars of your own where 'sorry' did not make them go away. Scars are unique so how can we empathize? Why feel sympathy when everyone has misfortune which cannot be graded on an A-F scale? Human's are not exams or paper.
Listen to people's stories about their individual scars and how they do or do not represent them. A scar could be on the skin. I could be underneath the skin. It also could be in their head. As well as on their heart. Their eyes may have been scarred but the noises may have been worse. Their emotions could have taken a beating in which NuSkin cannot act as a facade for the truth.
Here are my scars.
A few major surgeries have left me with scars all over my legs. Bi-lateral osteotemies on my tibias, fibulas, and femurs have given me lines of surgically attached skin that looks like bridges made of skin. Hairless and paler than my leg these scars are very noticeable. I try to cover them with the surrounding hair but the constant limp showcases the struggle I deal with.
A lifelong disability. A scar is very similar to a hidden disease. People ask questions that get vaguely answered, an incurable ailment in which remains repressed almost entirely. Some cannot hide from their scars as they encompass half of their bodies. An insecurity to them, but to me a story.
When I stare from afar I am not judging or making jokes. Instead I am trying to understand. My reasoning for distance is because I understand how touchy a subject one's own scar could be. If I could wear a sign above my head that says "Ask Me About My Scars", without people thinking that i'm an attention whore or the arch nemesis of Batman I would. Instead I cover up to conform to the beliefs of a tragic society in which someone else's scars are 'not as ugly as mine and I have been through worse'. Selfish ideologies we have been taught to never introduce ourselves in front of something we do not understand.
"You want to know how I got these scars?"
Yes, the answer is always yes. I will listen. I will not judge or try to imagine your pain because only you know what you have been through. Tell me how those scars of yours have been indifferent to you or how they changed your entire life. Allow me to try to understand why your scars important to you. Do not preach to me that your life is so difficult, but preach to me why your life is different to anyone else's and why those scars have made it so.
What do your scars symbolize?
