I can't explain how my skin crawls when I hear someone making excuses for their significant other/family member when they mess up. Stop making excuses because of how they were brought up, who they were brought up by, and what environment they were in when they were raised. Shitty. Things. Happen. To. Everyone. If you let those shitty thingsdefine your character then that's on you. Own that. Stop trying to make everyone else around you feel bad for the mistakes you made and blaming it on your upbringing.

-His parents weren't in his life..
Oh so that means he's given a free pass to treat girls like shit

-he didn't have a lot growing up.
So he can mooch off of his girlfriend-no job, her car, her money?

She was bullied in high school.
That means it's okay for her to go the rest of her adult life treating people like complete shit?

No it's not, and it isn't okay. We continually make excuses for these kinds of people, then wonder why as we grow older generations are sucking more and more.

I'll be honest, I was raised by AMAZING parents, in a wonderful-healthy environment, with a lot of love and support from everyone. I believe I grew up to reflect on how I was raised, but a lot of that were learned behaviors everyday. I didn't get a free pass from people to act like a dick, and I'm super glad that was the case. From a young age that wasn't expected of me, so I knew to NOT do it. But because some people once had a harder life, we let them continue on however they want, and don't bat an eye when feelings are hurt in the process. We walk on eggshells to avoid upsetting them, and that's what's wrong with our world. We allow certain people to get a free pass, so they continually expect that from everyone.

We need to stop allowing and accepting those who weren't as fortunate as others, get away with belittling people to the point of depression. Never once was it okay, nor will it ever be. No matter what angle you look at it, treating someone else like complete garbage is inexcusable.

I know a girl who dated this guy for a long while. He took her car, spent her money, didn't work a day in his life while she had several jobs, it was just one mess of a situation that was often overlooked because of his past.
Guess why?
He. Had. A. Bad. Upbringing.
So that gave him the right to make everyone else suffer because he once had to.

He didn't have the love from his parents at one point, so he wouldn't show it to someone who actually loved him.

He was never blessed with money, so he takes from those who actually work for it.

His life was so difficult in the beginning so why should he have to work later on? Isn't it time he catches a break?

At some point we are all dealt shitty straws. If you sulk repeatedly because of them, what the hell are you teaching the kids who have yet to be dealt a bad hand? That mooching is acceptable and being an ass is only okay if you didn't get the luxury of being treated like a decent human being from early on?

For as many people that I know who blame the way they are as a person on how their life started, I know a lot of people who refused to let their past affect their present.

I can't tell you how much respect I have for those kind of people. The ones where all odds were against them, but they worked their asses off to prove their past wouldn't define them. Those are the kind of people we need more of. That way when we are unlucky enough to be around those who dwell in the unlucky hand they were given right off the bat, we can point and say- "hey.. that person made it, you can too. No excuses."

I'm not sure of how I would've turned out if I maybe would have had different parents, a shitty home-life, and no support day to day. But I can tell you, if I would have turned out to be someone who found amusement in taking from those who actually work for it, I wouldn't be ale to blame anyone for that besides myself. You're responsible for your actions-not your parents, job (or lack of), or sucky intro to life. Get up and find a way to make a change, or keep your mouth shut.

It sounds harsh, but someone needs to be. Someone needs to be that hand giving a tiny push saying: "get the hell out there, put a smile on your damn face, get a job, go back to school, try your absolute hardest and then watch how your life changes."

I will never be someone who makes excuses for you. Then again, I'll never make excuses for myself either, and I promise to always remain true to that. I know that I'm blessed for all that's around me, but not for one second do I question whether or not I could be a good person without it all.

Stop making excuses.
Because you are to blame for feeling like your life is such shit.

The minute you realize this, the sooner you'll accomplish bigger things.

And to the person enabling/holding on. Let the hell go. Because, "The day you say fuck it and let go of the person you've been holding onto is the day your life gets a whole lot better."

It's time to put on your big boy pants and change the world, not just wait for it to change because you think it owes you something..

Because it doesn't and never will.