10 Small Ways To Give Yourself The TLC You Need

10 Small Ways To Give Yourself The TLC You Need

A little TLC never hurt anybody.


Self-love is something that I believe most people could use a little more of. It is something we tend to talk about, but never really do. Sometimes it can be really hard figuring out how exactly to show yourself the love you deserve. Here are 10 small, but very good ways to show yourself the TLC you need and deserve!

1. Do a face mask.

2. Go to the gym.

3. Take a mental health day.

4. Take a long, hot shower.

5. Drink a bottle of water.

6. Stretch.

7. Take a nap.

8. Listen to your favorite album.

9. Go outside.

10. Give yourself a compliment.

Self-love can be really tricky. At the end of the day though, it is something that really is needed.

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I Hate That I Struggle To Love My 'Midsize' Body

I gained a few pounds, but that shouldn't be the end of the world, yet it is in a sense.


Junior year of college has been quite the wild ride. I've had the best academic year of my entire life, yet struggled, in the end, to even want to get anything done. I didn't care about a lot of the things that used to matter to me.

I gained weight at the beginning of my second semester and went up a jean size, so half of my summer wardrobe just doesn't fit me anymore, and it's made me feel embarrassed. I went from a size 6 to an 8/10, and while it doesn't seem like a big jump to the average person, it was to me. I don't like looking in the mirror and seeing a bigger pooch than usual, or how my thighs have gotten super irritated because they also got bigger. Chaffing I used to only have in the summer occurred in late January and even scared my inner thighs. It's not cute and it hurts when it flares up. I am terrified to wear my bikinis again because I know they won't fit, and the second I put on shorts my thighs are going to want to kill me if I don't kill them first.

I came to really love my body last summer after struggling through a rough breakup where I stopped caring about myself. I owned myself last summer and as much as I want to again this summer, I'm really struggling with the idea of it.

All I feel like I see on social media are skinny girls with zero hint of a pooch or thick thighs in sight. I've never been a skinny girl and I never want to be, but I can't help but envy the people I've seen online and in person. Of course, what I see on social media isn't really accurate, but it's still been tough to look at these girls who seem like they don't have a care in the world. They can eat whatever they want and still look flawless. They can throw on a bikini and not have to feel like they need to suck everything in so no one sees their pooch hanging over their bikini bottom. As a stress eater who is still too terrified to try on her bikinis, I'm not looking forward to showing my body off when all I want to do sometimes is hide it because I don't feel happy with what I see.

I will always love being a curvier girl and YouTubers like Sierra Schultzzie, Carrie Dayton, and Lucy Wood have given me a new boost of inspiration to embrace the body I have right now. I'm not skinny but I'm not plus sized either. I feel pressure from myself and certain people in my life to be skinnier and not "let myself go." I

'm so happy to have friends who have helped me through my struggles and support me, even when I don't want to support myself. These YouTuber's have opened my eyes to the fact that this body deserves to be loved just as much as my former, smaller body.

I want to love myself with 100% of my being and I hate how much hatred I've allowed to go on inside of me. There is only one me and I need to be proud of her. Maybe she gained some weight and isn't what society expects from a girl, but she's still amazing and has so much to offer.

I wish I could see more girls like me on YouTube or social media offering a representation of my body type, which I hardly ever see. Aerie and American Eagle have done a fantastic job of including different body types and it's been a great help in seeing that they really to make clothes for all types of women, not just a size zero to two. Added representation really does wonders for someone suffering from low body confidence like me.

While I hope to begin my journey into losing a few pounds this summer by jogging whenever I get the chance, I'm not going to put intense pressure on myself to look a certain way. I am single for the summer and exploring life with my best friends by my side. I'm here to be the best version of me that I can. I cannot let negative thoughts about myself to dictate how I feel every day. I am strong, I am beautiful, and I need to love myself and my body as I am.

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Tana Mongeau Is Extra And Controversial And That's What Makes Her Relatable

Because, at the end of the day, she's what we all wish we could be.


YouTubers are some of the biggest "celebrities" nowadays, and it's still so hard to believe that the same people who started out filming videos in their bedrooms are now walking red carpets, attending premieres, and mingling with those from traditional, mainstream media.

There's a YouTube channel for everyone. Gaming channels, the beauty community, DIY-ers, daily vloggers, storytime channels, drama channels, unboxing videos, reviews, ex-Viners, whatever the heck the Paul Brothers do, and so much more.

With so many different categories available, the amount of YouTubers that exist and are "well known" is insane. It's hard to keep up with all of the creators (especially since new ones are coming out pretty much every day) but I'm sure we can all agree on a few that are household names (at least for everyone who is familiar with the platform) such as PewDiePie, Shane Dawson, Miranda Sings, Markiplier, James Charles (R.I.P.—he's not dead, but anyone keeping up with recent events knows why I'm saying this) and David Dobrik.

While all of these people are known and beloved (with the exception of Mr. Charles) as some of YouTube's biggest stars, there's another side of YouTube which consists of the ones people hate because they are controversial, filled with drama and have been "canceled" a few times. Come to think of it, Pewds, Shane, and James have all existed (or currently exist) in this realm of people, so it's pretty clear that it's revolving and never static.

A name that is very familiar within this group is none other than Tana Mongeau.

With her failed 2018 YouTube convention, TanaCon, which was supposed to rival the longstanding VidCon, originally created by the Green Brothers, being her rise to fame, she quickly became one of the most disliked personalities on the platform. However, long before TanaCon 2018 scarred many attendees with sad memories, and some with terrible sunburns, Tana had been starting scandals and had been the center of loads of drama.

It was basically her birthright, but I'm not mad about it.

One thing a YouTube viewer has to be conscientious of is that no matter who you're watching, no matter who you love with all your heart, everyone is human and therefore, everyone can make mistakes.

Apology videos on YouTube exist as far as the eye can see, but while many personalities let one or two scandals be the downfall of their careers, Tana Mongeau does not. Instead, she takes her mistakes and turns them around, making them her jokes and embracing herself for who she is: A f***-up.

So I guess there's really no surprise why she has a song titled just that just that.

At the base of it all, Tana is a twenty-year-old YouTuber who specializes in storytime videos, which are how she became popular, and who doesn't care what people are saying about her. And if you ask me, it wouldn't hurt if everyone tried to be a little more unapologetic like her.

What Tana has been able to create among her fanbase is phenomenal, to say the least. While outsiders may consider her fans to be "blind" or "dumb" because of their continued support even through all of her scandals and mistakes, as an insider myself, I simply consider us to be loyal and understanding.

To pretend one has never made a single mistake in their life is a lie. To act like one is and always has been 100% "woke" is a blatant disregard for all the growth that they've made throughout the years. And to write someone off for making a mistake, acknowledging said mistake, and accepting blame for the mistake without giving them room to become better is a shame that Tana Mongeau fans do not take part in, thankfully.

The internet's obsession with "cancel culture" in recent years has been unbelievable. And, if we're being honest, a tad hypocritical. Do people really expect me to believe that they've never f***ed up even once and that's why they have the right to designate who gets to continue being popular and loved and who doesn't?

Because I'm not buying it, and neither is Tana.

Instead of taking the L and crawling into a hole filled with dozens of other YouTubers who have let their mistakes be the end of the careers, Tana comes back even stronger than before each time. And while a lot of people might think she's annoying for that and doesn't know when to stop, I think it just makes her ten times better than everyone else.

Tana Mongeau knows who she is. She knows that, even though a person can do something wrong, that doesn't necessarily make them a terrible human or erase all of the good they've done in the past. Tana Mongeau lets herself and others grow, and Tana Mongeau knows that without giving people room to do so, you'd literally have nobody left on YouTube.

Except maybe the DIY-ers, since they never seem to be in any drama (unless they do it themselves—ba dum tiss.)

As a Tana Mongeau fan, someone who has watched her videos loyally for about two (maybe three) years now, I can definitely say she's had more than her fair share of scandals. She's been "canceled" several times (so much so that she decided to make her own "canceled" merch for her brand) and her apology videos happen to be some of the more entertaining ones.

Out of all of it, though, the one thing I have loved and will probably continue to love about Tana is that she lets herself be free. Her videos aren't monetized because she swears every five seconds? I guess she's not getting Adsense from them, oh well. She's below the legal drinking age in the country which she lives in? Well, then it's time to go to Mexico to film a drunk GRWM!

Though she's constantly put under a microscope for being annoying, talentless, trash, and so many other things I can't even think of, she doesn't let it stop her. Tana Mongeau continues to do what Tana Mongeau does best: Whatever the f*** she wants.

Isn't that what we all want to be like?

Wouldn't it be great to have her level of confidence, her level of assurance, and tell yourself that it doesn't matter if BeckyLovesYou345 left a comment on a YouTube video saying you're garbage because you know who you are?

If the world was a little more like Tana Mongeau, I wouldn't be mad about it. And if everyone started to think a little bit more like Tana Mongeau, I think we'd all be having a bit more fun.

She's a f***-up, she's a mess, she's this and she's that, but at the end of it all, she's having fun and being herself.

And I'll always love her for that.

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