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6 Reasons Lowering Your Standards Is The Wrong Move

Wait for the guy who truly loves you.

Ileana Gates
Apr 18, 2016
Texas A&M University
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6 Reasons Lowering Your Standards Is The Wrong Move
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Well, it's engagement season. Recently I had a friend tell me in conversation, "What if I never find the perfect guy? I probably just need to lower my standards to get that 'ring by spring' like everyone else."

I'll be honest, I once thought the same thing... Will I ever find a guy with my, what seems to be, impossibly high, standards?

I realized, though, yeah I should probably let go of the physical standards I have but there should be some things, us as girls should never settle on. We should wait it out, because even if it takes longer than expected, God has that perfect guy in store for you.

1. Wait for the guy who makes you laugh.

The guy that makes you smile when you're just done with the day, the guy who knows exactly what lame jokes to tell you that make you smirk, and the guy who will always try to make you smile or laugh when you're going through the hardest of times.

2. Wait for the guy that motivates you.

The guy who will push you to reach your dreams and goals. The guy who will encourage you when you feel like giving up and the guy who will motivate you to pursue God and encourage you to grow in your faith.

3. Wait for the guy that prays for you.

The guy who will set aside some sort of time per day to have you in his prayers. To pray for your goals, your life, and your relationship.

4. Wait for the guy who pursues God AND You.

The guy that pursues God and you daily. The guy who prays and is constantly yearning to seek God and the guy who loves you and still pursues you like it's the first date.

5. Wait for the guy that respects you.

Not just the guy that opens doors for you and pays for dinner, but the guy who respects your body, respects your morals and respects your choices.

6. Wait for the guy your family loves.

Because let's be honest, they really do know best.

So maybe I won't get that "ring by spring," but I know, that by not settling, I will get the "perfect" guy, and it'll be worth the wait.

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