Yes, I'm a Virgin Who Happens To Be On Tinder—No, I Won't Sleep With You

Yes, I'm a Virgin Who Happens To Be On Tinder—No, I Won't Sleep With You

I'm not sure what all of you are thinking when you slide in my DM's asking to get some but good luck with the next girl.


Being a virgin really isn't a big deal…

Which is why I still don't understand the men who swipe right on me and act as if matching with me is like finding the holy grail or hitting the jackpot. I get it, I'm a virgin, I'm a "rare" breed.

But my virginity is not your consolation prize.

People assume Tinder is a hookup app, which I'll give it to you that's exactly what it turned into. But Tinder is not solely for hookups. People like me are on there to find friends, to meet new people, maybe find the love of their life.

My bio literally says that I definitely am not going to sleep with you and yet people swipe right, we match, and the VERY FIRST thing that comes from their little fingertips is "are you sure you're not gonna sleep with me?" or the ever so lovely "I bet I can change your mind about that" or any of the in-between mixtures that you can think of. Trust me, I've got it all. I travel a lot so I've met numerous people and you'd be surprised how similar everyone is.

Perhaps people are just incompetent and don't realize that they are in fact not being funny, nor original, but very very distasteful.

Like, come on, really?

If I get another "let me be those thighs" or "sit on my face" message I might just rip out all of my hair.

Swiping right does not give you full access to my pants or any part of my body for that matter. Whether you're a virgin or not I'm sure you can agree that no one likes to be looked at as a piece of meat that they're so patiently waiting to sink their teeth into or a little toy that they just can't wait to get their dirty little hands on.

It's truly a struggle for ALL GENDERS. Stop acting like a match is an automatic invitation on the bang train heading towards the bone city, cause it's not.

And before any of you try to judge someone and say "their profile was asking for it." You, my friend, are an idiot.

Sex is not nor will it ever be as easy as swiping right and finding a flame. My virginity is not a trophy you get for participating so good luck with your next match. And in the lovely words of Ariana Grande: Thank you, next.

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Why I Spend So Much Time With My Boyfriend

And I love it!

Many people think that spending too much time with your significant other is a bad thing. I think that wanting to spend time with them is a blessing. Don't get me wrong, we do not spend every waking minute together. We make sure that we save time for our friends and family, but in the end, we cherish our time together.

He brings out the best in me. When I first met my boyfriend, I knew he was something special. I didn't know what it was, but I knew that it would be important someday. I found out that when I am with him, I am an all-around happier person. I look at things in different ways, and I now know a whole new world of people. He has helped me overcome obstacles that have been holding me back for quite some time.

We enjoy each others company. I can't even begin to tell you how many times we have just sat in silence simply knowing that you are in the company of someone who loves you is comforting. He makes things that would usually be boring a lot more fun. When we do homework together, he makes the work seem like it's not work, and things like a simple trip to Walmart ends up being a comedy show.

We are best friends. Many people say that they are best friends with their significant other. For us, it's true. I can tell him anything. There is no hiding things in our relationship; we come right out and say what we want to say.

He pushes me to succeed. Whether it is with weight loss or homework, he holds me accountable. When I start a new workout, he keeps me on track to be whom I want to be. We make sure that we put homework before going out and that helps us in the long run. Giving up that pizza can be easy when you are spending time with someone you love.

He makes life seem not so hard. College can be hard and make life difficult. It seems that I always have something new happening or another meeting to attend. When I get stressed or overwhelmed, he makes sure that I take the time to put into perspective what really matters and focus on that. And when that fails, we go get McDonald's.

He supports me. He has never once told me that one of my ideas was stupid or out of reach. Whenever something new comes up that I think would be exciting, he is the first one to rally behind me and let me know that it is a good idea (even if it's not).

I love him. Love is a strong word, but I can honestly say I have never felt like this before. Between everything that he does for me, I do just as much for him simply because I love seeing him happy. Spending so much time together isn't hard to do because we love each other. If somewhere down the road we decide to split ways, I will still love him and he will still love me. That will never go away.

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It's 2019 And It's Okay For Girls To Be Assertive

Put yourself out there with everything that you've got, because it's 2019 and we are living life unapologetically, ladies!


It is that time of the year my friend. Formal season. Also known as the time to frantically search through all of your mutual friends in hopes of finding someone that you would want to ask to go as your date.

Let me tell you. It's hard!! This event is a month away yet all of my friends have been on the prowl already. But this isn't important. My point here is, I am in need of a date. And I want to let you know right now that it is 2019 and I think that it's completely okay for girls to be assertive and put themselves out there when it comes to finding someone!

Maybe I'm just preaching to the choir here. But I really think that we should leave those preconceived notions in the past. Things are different now. There are platforms like Tinder and Bumble that encourage women to make the first move! You don't have to have your mom call their mom and arrange a date anymore. Women have more freedom now than ever before.

Stigmas are just holding us back! Is there someone that you have a crush on? Message that person! Approach them! Tell them! The worst they can do is say no. Life is so much easier when you are straight-forward and unapologetic with how you feel. Let's practice being transparent. Wear your heart on your sleeve. No one will chastise you for it. If anything, I think that people will respect the courage it takes to put yourself out there and give it everything that you've got.

Before I get off of my soapbox, here is my final bit of wisdom. The only person who deserves you is yourself. Your value is not based on the opinion of others. With that being said, put yourself out there with everything that you've got because it's 2019 and we are living life unapologetically, ladies!

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