Dictionary.com defines a friend as "a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard." It's a very basic definition for something that is such a big part of our lives. Colloquially, "friend" is a broad term we use to describe pretty much anyone we interact with on a regular basis, but a friend is so much more than that. A true friend isn't just someone you grab coffee with before class or go out with on the weekends. True friendship extends far beyond simply spending time together.
A true friend is someone who is there for you and wants you to succeed. Things that mean a lot to you become meaningful to them because you mean a lot to them. They want to watch you grow and flourish and chase your dreams, and they support and encourage you every step of the way. A true friend is honest. They are there to build you up when your self-esteem is low, but they're also there to bring you back down to earth when you get too carried away. A true friend won't judge you. They already love you, and they're not going to change their mind because of something silly you did.
A true friend is willing to fight for your friendship. Disagreements happen and friendships are bound to hit rough patches, but that doesn't have to mean all is lost; a true friend will be willing to work it out. A true friend will see your value. They won't try to break you down, discourage you, or undermine your success because they know how much you're worth and they want to see you be happy. A true friend is independent. You love to spend time with each other, but you're able to exist as individuals and pursue your own interests too -- you don't have to be attached at the hip all the time. A true friend respects you. They won't talk down to you or treat you as an inferior. They won’t pressure you to do anything you're not okay with, they won't ask you to do anything that isn't in your best interest and they would never put you in harm's way. They want you to be happy, healthy, and safe.
A true friend will be there for you no matter what. If you've just been dumped, they'll be on your doorstep with ice cream. If you need to borrow an outfit, they already have several picked out for you to try on. If you need someone to laugh with, you can bet they'll be ready to go watch the latest Zac Efron comedy with you in a heartbeat. If you need to vent, if you need advice, or if you need a shoulder to cry on, they will make time for you. Above all, a true friend cares about you. They are invested in you and they're in it for the long run. True friends are few and far between, so cherish those relationships and put in the effort to make them last. The best friendships are built when you challenge each other to become better people, you support each other, and nothing makes you happier than to see them truly happy. The older I get, the more I realize how important it is to have good friends, not more friends. Most of your "friends" will come and go, but true friends will be there until the end.
