Unselfishly Satisfying Self-Love
Start writing a post

Unselfishly Satisfying Self-Love

You are enough to love yourself.

Unselfishly Satisfying Self-Love

Self-love - easily recognizable, but very rarely visible. For whatever reason that society formulates in its mind, we are not supposed to love ourselves. It's a pity to love ourselves with an ounce of the courage that it takes to love others. As a society, we are more likely to love our neighbor or that random and isolated individual we always come across in town, than to show that same condition to ourselves. We so easily and gracefully give, that we often forget to receive from the individual that commonly has the most love in their hearts, us. We dictate it as a shame, an injustice, a crime. However, if you examine the reasoning for our instinct deeper, the truth will reveal itself. Our inability to show affection and attention to the individual that we occupy all our time with, every second of each passing day, is a fatal fault of our society.

With Valentine's day vanishing as quickly as it appears every year, I have been contemplating and observing the priorities of other young adults my own age, as well as my own. I've witnessed our tendencies and acknowledgements to compare our lives to those around us. I have seen the extreme sadness that stretches upon faces, as there is realization that there is a lack of the millennial's priority, love, in their lives. The misguided attempts to love someone before loving a fraction of ourselves. Although courageous, I strongly believe that the curves or lack thereof on your body, the contagious laughter that you spread, and irregular and yet unique aspects of your being must be admired by yourself and for yourself first. The appreciation of you as a part of humanity is not an easy or simplified feat. It's a process; therefore, taking years to develop and expand upon. However, still relevant in the practice of respecting ourselves.

There are not enough words in the English language to convey to whom ever may be reading this, the hurt scattered through the generations of people who have placed others before themselves. The amount of "I am not enough for him/her" or "she/he does not need me" I have observed. With so much meaning to the speaker, but absence of significance or truth to the listener. Because let's face it, we are never not enough for someone. It is not a matter of missing this crucial aspect that they are longing for - an element that they have placed their life on hold for. Rather, their misguided words of remembrance are the result of being too much for them. They fear the conditions that we represent and bring forth.

Frequently, I have witnessed the false tales of someone being "too intimidating", but in reality, that somebody was too wise and mature with too much love to give to the prospective receiver. Behind a series of tears, I have witnessed the actions of an individual being told that "it's not you, it's me". These words are the commonalities of giving everything within you to the one(s) who leaves with it all, often replacing a sense of safety with hesitation and halt. Suddenly, the emotional individual cannot progress. They are suspended from progression.

Yes, it is not the specific efforts of the individual that caused this rejection. In truth, it's the theme of not being the right fit for each other, because there is too much of a characteristic or readiness that someone is not prepared for. There is a point to be made of not being on the same page. The possibility of being in different stages in life. If you are ready for more, than do not settle or prolong your progress and success to appease them. There is truth in goodbye. Although, often matched with reluctance. It is important to note that this concept is obtained only after the sole individual divulges it to themselves. When the change and transformation forward is accepted. This revelation is discovered in the brief and calming presence when you realize that their dimpled smile and soft touch is not enough to hold you back. When your confronted with the possibility of your future, only to comprehend that previous days entangled with their memory are preventing you from becoming your idealized self. In these short but prolonged seconds, you will understand your worth. It is a battle that you will have to repeatedly reminding yourself, but an investment.

Overall, this period of time will be a series of baby-steps. It will be one of the most vulnerable concepts known to society. Although, just think, if you could entrust your heart that deeply to the wrong person, than how much you could give to yourself and one day the right individual. You deserve more. You deserve to understand and receive the love that you radiate to others. If you are to believe one thing that I have said within this thousand-word piece, believe this - you are more than enough to love yourself. You are enough. Repeat those crucial words to yourself and feel the power behind them. You, you are glorious in all of your being. Every curve that wrinkles and originates as you formulate the tiniest smile or glimmer in your eyes as you talk about something that inspires you is worth your self-love. You are the only one who can give yourself the privilege and validation for this kind of respect. Isn't it about time to indulge yourself?

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Health and Wellness

I Talked To Nikki Pebbles About PCOS-Friendly Workouts, And Low-Impact Is The Key

Hormone health impacts everything, including the workouts that are best for you.


Women with polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS) deal with a lot of uncertainty in their life. Between hormonal ups and downs, unpredictable weight gain, painful cyst ruptures, and infertility worries, their bodies are often under a lot of stress! A common symptom of PCOS is having a hard time losing weight — many women find themselves frustrated (or in pain) from traditional workout plans.

I talked to Nikki Pebbles, a certified personal trainer and group fitness coach, to talk about the kind of workouts that are best for women who are dealing with PCOS.

Keep Reading... Show less

Jason Wu's Recent Runway Show's Models All Wore Maybelline — Get The Look On A SERIOUS Budget

Created solely with the Maybelline New York line, you'll get a glimpse of makeup done the Empire State way.


As a makeup artist who is always looking for bargain, good quality makeup, I can confidently say that Maybelline's New York line exceeds any high expectations I set. With only five steps and seven products, you can achieve the makeup looks rocked by models for one of the biggest fashions shows in the industry.

The direct makeup artist, Erin Parsons, also shared her statement about the makeup saying, "When you're on vacation, you don't really wear much makeup. We applied Maybelline New York Super Stay Matte Ink Coffee Edition in Espresso Enthusiast and Chai Genius sinve the models had to wear masks following application, and we knew that the makeup would not move."

Keep Reading... Show less

Chase Stokes And Madelyn Cline Are 'Hot Stuff' In Kygo's New Music Video

While we patiently await OBX season two on Netflix, we can just jam to and watch "Hot Stuff" in the meantime.


As if Chase Stokes, 28, and Madelyn Cline, 22, aren't cute enough in real life, we also get to swoon over them as John B and Sarah Cameron in "Outer Banks" AND now in Kygo's new music video, "Hot Stuff." Feel free to gush over them in the video below.

Keep Reading... Show less

I began suffering the symptoms of PCOS — acne, fatigue, weight gain, and an irregular cycle — when I was about 16, but I wasn't diagnosed until about nine years later.

The symptoms were, of course, frustrating, but I am now thankful for all of the time I spent trying to manage them naturally with my diet, herbs, and vitamins. Now that I am diagnosed, I do take a small dose of prescribed spironolactone which has helped immensely, mostly with my skin.

Keep Reading... Show less

Fall is (almost) here, and we could not be more excited. As the weather slowly but surely changes, so will your wardrobe. From booties to oxfords, this fall's shoe trends have something for everyone.

Sure, you might be comfy at home in your slippers, but with shoes this cute, you'll be sporting them when you're out and about or just hanging out in your living room.

Keep Reading... Show less

I'm not one to talk about personal issues, like the first-hand misogyny I experience as a woman, usually because it makes close family and friends uncomfortable. However, I have recently become exhausted with the number of comments I get, so I decided to rate all the ones I received in the past month to prove that misogyny is alive and real.

Keep Reading... Show less

With the pandemic, so many of my friends and I discussed how it was hard to find new things for date night when so many places were closed. It seems like date nights were just endless nights of bingeing Netflix and stuffing my face with Halo Top and SmartSweets. I tried those other date night ideas like cooking together and playing cards. But even those things can get old after a while. Finally, I had it and decided we need to make date nights COUNT again, even if we had to social distance.

Here are 5 different and unique ways you can spice up date night with your partners.

Keep Reading... Show less

"To Kill A Mockingbird" by Harper Lee. This classic novel has found itself in the hands of nearly every high school student for the past decades. Ahead of its time, the themes of racial injustices and loss of innocence have certainly sparked many healthy conversations in classrooms.

Keep Reading... Show less

- Since my late teens, I have had wavy, unruly hair that is susceptible to frizz from heat damage.

- I've made a conscious effort to try and eliminate heat styling products from my hair regimen in order to do less damage in the form of split ends and hair loss.

- When I first tried Tineco's MODA ONE Smart Ionic Hair Dryer, I was immediately amazed by how quickly it dried my thick strands and how straight/sleek my hair was with minimal work.

Up to my late teen years, my thick, soft, silky straight hair was the envy of nearly everyone I encountered. I totally took it for granted till my hair began to evolve into being more wavy and unruly with random patches of wavy and straight hair.

Keep Reading... Show less

"Schitt's Creek" has quickly become an absolute fan favorite in the US and Canada and their seven wins at the Emmy Awards last night proves just that.

Keep Reading... Show less
Facebook Comments