Being a non-romantic isn't exactly the easiest, and being a non-romantic in the digital age can make it much harder. Nowadays it is expected to post all over social media and announce how much someone means to you if you are in a relationship or trying to win someone over. That's okay for some but for the non-romantics that's when things can start getting a little uncomfortable. Us non-romantics can often be misunderstood and I know I can't speak for all but it's time to shed some light on what this can be like.
As a non-romantic it can get quite uncomfortable when someone starts professing their love for you, especially over social media. You don't need to tell me how much you love me in a detailed Facebook post that has a picture of us kissing; please never post a picture of us kissing. That's uncomfortable. No need to post a picture of me cooking your eggs on Instagram because it was a cute moment, why does the world have to see it; can't it just be our moment? Please don't make your Snapchat story a video of me brushing my teeth because "she even looks cute when she wakes up." I get embarrassed even thinking about it. I understand for some people that is "goals" and that is perfectly okay if that's what you want, but for non-romantics that can be a nightmare full of emotions and gushy feelings.
Now I know what you're thinking....
But really why can't a person not want the big romantic gestures without people assuming their broken? Being a non-romantic does not mean not being accepting of love or believing we do not deserve it; we can still show and receive love but just not always in the 'traditional' ways that are expected. We are not always bitter, and broken.. We just love differently.
It's truly the small things that matter to us...
It's the simplest of gestures that mean the the most. Mix me my favorite drink after a long day, or make me a mixed tape full of songs you know I love and I don't think anything says I love you more than that. Dating a non-romantic also means understand that we don't necessarily show our love in the same ways either. That means understanding and knowing your partner well enough to know how they feel about these things.
And the thing is that sometimes us non-romantics are the ones that feel the hardest... And that can be awkward for us because sometimes we don't know how to handle that.
Being in love is a roller-coaster of emotions and being a non-romantic we're stereotyped "cold" and "careless" but in all honesty sometime our emotions can be felt so strong like they're about to burst out of us at any moment. Not being typically good with emotions we tend to share them in many different ways maybe by doing little things like making your favorite dinner or buying something at the store that caught our eye that you would like. Romance isn't always the doing big things sometimes it's just the small things that show you really care about and know the person you are with
I know.. Non-romantics sound complicated but...
We're all complicated and when it comes to love it's never easy, we all want to love and be loved and have the comfort of knowing that. For a non-romantic that means doing it in the small things, no need for the big gestures or public displays of affection. Set up a date with a marathon of our favorite movies, take us to our favorite place, do something we love. After all the greatest adventure in love is figuring out all the details about the one you love that makes them who they are.
